As much as the thought of having sex with your new girlfriend on the first date can be increasingly arousing, it would still have to be thoroughly and critically examined. Even though sex is a great part of the relationship, dating the girl that you have chosen is about making her feel loved, and happy. Sex is not the ONE important factor in a relationship. Having a good time, laughing, sharing special moments and getting to know one another (closely), is the major thrilling, and exciting aspect of being on a first date, is that you have finally got the one person to yourself - with you.

But having sex on a first date should be a definite NO! Why? Well...So many problems can occur. Imagine, or...picturize yourself on your first date. Everything is going superbly well. You've got her laughing at your stupid jokes; she's allowed you to hold her hand; already the sparks of electricity are dancing through your connected fingers. You can feel both of your body heat sizzling at the closeness of your body's touch. You might be lucky to get a passionate kiss by the end of the date, even.

If you are really, really serious in your relationship - you think you have something going for a potential long-term thing, then by all means at least have a couple of dates before getting the clothes off and diving in to bed.

So many problems can occur whilst after having sex on the first date: once you've finished having sex with your girlfriend, you discover you have feelings for someone else (something you shouldn't have if you plan on spending the rest of your life with the first girlfriend), or she doesn't even like you. Arguments can ignite, and not just emotional arguments, but physical blows, shoving and punching are sometimes involved. You also find that you have been so drunk, you have forgotten to wear protection while making love to her, and find you have been given something nasty like AIDS. Or worse, a little kid is on the way! These are the things you need to question at great length before you even thinking about having sex on the first date.

But if it is just sex for fun, make sure you both discuss that it is just experimentation, and no one is going to get hurt afterwords. Show that you can say, "No", to something you don't fancy, as guys often hate hearing that word when in bed with their girl.

So, sex on the first date...? Don't think so. As arousing as it may sound, I still would wait maybe after a couple of weeks (or until she was ready), then I'd pleasure her. So just take these little problems in to account first before you think about sex.

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