by Deepa Nanda

Created on: June 12, 2008

There is no excuse for infidelity

I always feel very strongly about cheating and so infidelity is something I will never support. I feel there is just no excuse for infidelity and if a person is committed to a relationship then he/she has to abide by it or walk away. Nothing in life comes for free you have to earn it. So in case of a relationship you have to work at it to make it successful or go for a break up if things don't work out at all. But if you make a committment you have to stick to it no matter what. You have to face the consequences instead of hopping into bed with whoever is available at the moment just so to escape facing whatever difficulties your relationship maybe going through. That is certainly not a sign of maturity.

I may sound very narrow minded but this is the way I feel. Only a weak person is unable to curb down his basic instincts and loses control in the moment. Come on, there are temptations galore in every walk of life but there is a limit and crossing that line is just not done. Just like stealing, gambling or doing drugs,cheating is also a vice which can be controlled. Indulging in something like infidelity also has its potential dangers and hazards.

Also by cheating on your partner you break his/her heart and you certainly have no right to to play with anyone's emotions or tread over anyone's feelings. That is highly unacceptable and an absolutely insensitive thing to do. When your partner strays it sure becomes a very difficult thing to forgive or forget and causes a lot of heartache and nobody should have to go through that phase. Adultery is just not the solution to any marital problem. Go for couple therapy, take a break and go on a vacation, talk it out with your partner do whatever it takes to mend your relationship or part amicably as far as possible without the repurcussions of a failed relationship caused by infidelity. This can only lead to bitterness and low self esteem in addition to resentment.

Life is not perfect and neither is anything in life perfect be it relationships, career or even your social life. So expecting anything otherwise is foolhardy. It is upto us to make the best of any situation and try and be happy with it. Cheating spouses should realize this fact and work out their differences. Nothing is more unhealthy than an unhappy marriage. Being in an unhappy marriage creates havoc on your health,mind and general well being. It affects your work life, your family , friends and well wishers too get affected by the sorry state of your affairs. And the worst sufferers are the kids who get embroiled in all this ugliness without any fault. I think all kids deserve a healthy environment while growing up and it is the duty of every parent to ensure that.They are the future of our country and should be given a good and proper upbringing with the right values. And who better than the parents to set up a perfect example.

So thereby I conclude that there is no excuse for infidelity and one should restrain from indulging in it however great the tempatation maybe.A few moments of pleasure is just not worth it for nothing you do afterwards can undo the hurt caused to your partner or heal the dent in your relationship.

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