by Lorraine Wilks

Created on: June 12, 2008

Why not to crash a wedding party

No way in hell is it acceptable to crash a wedding. Other parties, fine not a big deal, but a wedding is a special day for the couple. If they had wanted you there you would have been invited, but you weren't so respect their wishes and don't go.

A wedding is a once in a lifetime experience for most people. I know many women who have dreamed of their magical day since they were young. They have the ideal wedding in their head and want to turn that into reality. The amount of time, energy and expense people put into this one day is at times overwhelming.

At lot of the time people the couple would love to invite still don't receive an invite due to budgets and occupancy limits of the venue. If you turn up it may be the couple are over the moon to see you, but the limit of people in the venue may have been exceeded and they ask people to leave, or they may not have invited you as someone else (who you don't get on with) had to be invited and they didn't want tension at their wedding, which is fair enough. If you just turn up and crash the wedding I can assure you there will be eruptions. The arguements may never end. Twenty years after the actual day when looking back on it they may not see the funny side. It can cause friction especially if your related and cannot get away from each other. (I would hope if your related you woulf firstly be invited or have the common sens enot to ruin their big day)

At a friends wedding some people crashed it, which wasn't a problems with the occupancy limits, so everything was fine until the bar packed up at eight as they had brought their own drink with them. Therefore they had no bar for the rest of the evening and had to send people to the local off licence. The bride and groom have never forgiven the crashers and somehow I doubt they ever will.

You have to consider the consequences when crashing a party. You also have to realise the extent of the damage it will cause at a wedding. It is a very memorable day which lasts a lifetime for the couple. Do you really want people looking back at their wedding day ion horror because you decided you wanted to party? Are you really that insensitive? I hope the answer is no. Also think how you will feel. You have spent thousands of pounds or more on one day that is completely ruined by one person, or a group of people. How would you feel? Really? Be honest because even if you wouldn't mind how would you other half feel?

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