by Diossa

Created on: June 11, 2008

What breeds deep between to people in marriage are not the over-the-top romantic gestures that tips us off with our commitment quotient towards each other. However, it is how we deal with each other in our day to day stuff be at the time together or months apart. The certain ways we react to diverse situations that hit a marriage helps mold a partnership that holds any marriage unison for life. How willing a couple works with each other to fix a problem is one of the telling parts of how we appreciate marriage is forever. In my experience, to always ask and have a "hug moment" defuses the tension. I know it is hard to ask for a hug and strangling your partner is what you want at such moment, remembering that "we are in this together forever" helps a lot. Momentary meltdowns are hard to avoid and loathing them seems to invite them often in any marriage, learning to chill out instead of reacting (violently, selfishly, and any negative reactions) and trusting that in marriage you have each other's interest at heart wont let you stay upset for very long. I must say as time goes by of being together, any married couple discovers how capable they are of working through a crisis together, it proves that in every challenges, if caring for each other is present and the knowledge that both are in it together for the long term is always the best weapon in every battle marriage has to face.

Anyone prefers a person who understands. When doubts, jealousy and insecurity starts to resurface after being married for too long, these may be because we have been so happy and comfortable now that we are married, we gained weight overtime. Let it be a known fact that one must understand the big difference between the rapid sense of insecurity and jealousy that interferes with relationship. One must learn to know if whether there love is true and how much trust they have for their marriage then there is no room for doubts to flourish (only more bags of potato chips, m&m's and cheese on the side.) Lastly, the commitment barometer in any marriage lies in how ready we are to rescue each other in everything life will bring us.Being attuned to each other's need is another measure of how smitten and how tightly connected a person in his/her marriage. The fact that how you came through for each other when it counts means you are there for each other for life. When a couple's everyday decision is based on love is in it together forever.

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