by Kathleen

Created on: June 11, 2008   Last Updated: July 14, 2010

No. Besides the obvious reasons that people may have a jealous need to be with their significant other at all times, there is something to be said for having something or someplace that's all your own. There are far too many relationships currently based on discomfort and insecurity. When someone HAS to be around someone else 24 hours a day there are underlying problems.

Working with a spouse can open the door to a multitude of things that you didn't want to be a part of.

Gossip; there isn't an office or workplace around that doesn't have employees partaking in juicy office tales and rumors. When you subject your relationship to the opinions of onlookers day in and day out it can cause personal relationship problems that may not have been there before. People love to watch others fall and fail. If there is the slightest hint of attitude in your voice, co-workers will fill in the blanks with their own version as to why. Eventually, you will hear these same comments and will begin to stick up for your relationship by dishing details, or will become paranoid about the things being said about either you or your spouse.

When a boss is familiar with both you and your spouse, he or she too will begin to entertain the rumors if there is a change in your work habits or attitude. These preconceived notions can harm you or your spouse when looking to promote or transfer.

Smothering - Spending all of your time together isn't healthy even if you are sitting at opposite ends of the building. Sooner or later someone will feel smothered by the constant explaining of their actions or decisions at the workplace. The best of couples question each other about lunch dates and who will pick the child up from the sitters. Couples may not intend to mix their professional and personal lives, but it becomes commonplace when you have access to each other all day long. This can interfere with your work performance, your stress level and your relationship's strength.

Unprofessionalism - No one wants to be accused of not being professional, especially after working hard to achieve a status or position they are happy with. Many couples find it hard to keep their personal arguments at home. Some spouses make it their mission to badmouth the other if there has been a quarrel. Co-workers begin to take sides depending on which spouse has been their friend. These same co-workers are the allies and possibly only friends a person may have. Although it is natural to vent and sometimes let a friend

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