by Candy Jules

Created on: June 11, 2008   Last Updated: July 04, 2008

In any relationship, trust has to be one of the most important values in order to make it work. When that trust has been broken by either person in the relationship, things will never be the same.

There was a time when a man and a woman stayed together through thick and thin. They dealt with their problems and worked it out. It was expected of them to take their vows and to make them for life, or till death do they part.

Things are so very different now. People change partners as often as they do their clothes. There doesn't seem to be any meaning to the word Love. Lust fits the world more now. Everybody has an excuse as to why they do what they do.

My ex-husband told me that he could love me, and still have relations with someone else because it didn't mean anything. It was just sex. My feelings shouldn't be hurt because it was me that he loved. How dumb did he think I was? I, on the other hand had already been there with my first husband, so I knew all the excuses and all the lies.

If you're involved with someone who is married or in a relationship, you'd better think long and hard before you commit to anything. If they cheat with you, I guarantee, they will cheat on you. They're good at it. Every cheater has his/her own lines. "My spouse doesn't understand me. My spouse is cheating on me, so why not. Not enough time for each other, The kids are always around, or the kids will wake up." It's a never-ending excuse that's nothing but a lie.

How can someone really love you, and cheat with another on the side. Is nothing sacred anymore? They will do it again, some never stop. They got away with it once, it's a piece of cake. That way the cheater can have the best of both worlds. Meanwhile, two others get hurt, and what about any children that might be involved?

Even if you try to work it out, there will always be doubt. Everytime they are late from work, or they have to go out of town on business. The phone rings, and everytime you pick it up, the unknown person on the other end hangs up. I use to find little love letters in my husband's uniform shirts. They had been written by a 16 year old mentally challenged girl. She never denied it. He couldn't, and it was still going on when I finally left.

He told me one time that he was better at cheating than I ever could be, so don't bother to try it. I just wanted away from him. He had this obsession about other women. He didn't care how old they were, just how willing they were.

There's a big difference between love and sex.

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