by Celia

Created on: June 10, 2008   Last Updated: October 31, 2008

To Escape the Spiral of Love- and come out stronger, healthier and wiser.

I know so many people have written about love. And it has many similar themes that reoccur. Love is blind. I agree with that one; the way it clouds your perception makes you feel and believe that it doesn't matter how long it will take to get over if the end is near. Because in this perfect moment, it is so unbelievably rich with euphoria and ecstasy. Once these clouds unfold and reality bears transparency amidst its translucent light you begin to feel emotions of the opposite end of this 'love spectrum', I might call it. This spectrum has many levels. Once 'reality' is reached, you find yourself on neutral ground, once gone further, loves fades gradually- spiralling negatively downward. As this happens you may feel yourself enter into clouds of emotion thick with hurt, humility, jealousy and doubt; to a large degree of yourself; the shame and loss you felt for the decisions made consequentially. Then hatred resulting from those and regret. A longing and loss felt-

> Nostalgia, and a final (though this one seems to continually repeat itself numerous times over unfortunately and it seems that you may never be free, no matter how many times you tell yourself to be strong and "Enough is Enough"!. This expectation placed upon yourself once established, places strong punishment value once you have fallen into what you think is 'weakness'. But no. We are human. In one of my favourite verses of the bible [2, Corinthians 12: 9, 10] it says God's power is perfect in my weakness. Therefore I delight in insults and hardships for when I am weak, the I am strong. I know to some that may seem utterly incomprehensible. But look at the core, heart and soul of that and BELIEVE. It speaks wisdom and truth. I am not trying to come across as some overzealous evangelist!

From there onwards the 'love spectrum' begins to disintegrate, or if you'd like, you begin to climb effortlessly back up, level by level (or scale-spectrum) to a neutral ground again, a reality, and beyond. Not right back into the blind euphoric love phase but to a strength and comprehensive understanding of yourself, a motivation to succeed and move positively forward with NO RESENTMENT, hate or hurtful intention of any kind. No hidden insecurities or 'skeletons in the closet'. Just pure acceptance. Possibly some sentimental value and nostalgia still, but one of the kind that CELEBRATES memories of the love experienced. That love. Your ONE love.

Now that, dear friends, is an admirable wise and mature place to be. An achievement that is none too proud but one that coexists deep within your core self. Just a moving onwards really with happiness and determination that DOES NOT look back. Celebrating those previous many abundant memories and being content with yourself is similar to Maslow's Hierarchy of attainment of needs. You see, few get there, especially when still in youth, but once you are there, I suppose you could say you have found the meaning of life. Achieving your goals, celebrating your successes and purely and honestly content within your heart and soul.

Jesus Christ himself set this example and lived life as a man on our earth. He portrayed and demonstrated through his teachings and his experiences. All we have to do is follow the example he set as he lived his life in our selfish world. That's all there is to it. I believe. So simple. And furthermore is the purest way, the cleanest way, to entangle and free yourself from the turmoil and burdens life and love places and presents.

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