by Susie Turk

Created on: June 10, 2008   Last Updated: June 20, 2010

Failure in marriage is often the result of lacking respect for one another, the lack of communication (communication breakdown), the lack of care; aka care-LESS (ness), discontentment, personal change, EXPECTATIONS, lack of full disclosure (see communication breakdown), financial stresses, familial stresses, SELFISHNESS, OUTSIDE INFLUENCES, pent up RESENTMENT over time, and so many other factors as well.

We are moving at such a hurried pace in today's society that we've become more apt to pass over our spouse, or moreover, pass unnecessary judgment upon our spouse, than we are to simply remember to smile a loving smile, and state to our spouse, "I love you. You are now, and will always be my best friend. Most importantly, "YOU TRULY DO MATTER".

We take so many people for granted, and sadly, spouses seem to take the number one slot in this particular area of marital negligence, albeit ABUSE. How is it that the love we cherished so fully prior to marriage is capable of slowly disintegrating into an unseen slow excruciatingly painful death of a once beloved BEST FRIENDSHIP, and partnership as well? Where is it that we actually lose sight of the values found in the person who was once so invaluable. In fact, invaluable, loved, and desired enough to actually MARRY?

I'll tell you this; I know where I went wrong. I know where he went wrong, I also know my husband is QUITTING too soon. Has he in fact taken the time to evaluate, communicate, and truly remember, or has he, is he simply traveling to the land of denial in a place called mid-life crisis? If so, once there will he unwittingly proceed to rationalize his way into believing quitting is the appropriate thing to do? Adding insult to injury, the pressure his Jordanian, Islamic family has been, and is currently still placing upon him to dump his American-Jewish wife isn't helping matters at all. Culture clashes are not recommended for healthy marriages, if I do say so myself. The bottom line here is, he's caving, and, "HE'S QUITTING", too. This so-called, "QUITTING" is exactly why our marriage, and others' marriages are failing, or ultimately actually FAIL.

Try, if you will, to imagine what life would be like if every human being whom became ill was passed over as "USELESS", then carelessly dumped to the wayside to make way for what we ultimately believe are more valuable, higher quality human beings? I know you're thinking, "Unbelievable! Who would ever deny human beings "CARE" in their times of great need?" Well,

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