by Mae M. G.

Created on: June 10, 2008

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
-Jala ad-Din Rumi

Sometimes the easiest answers are the hardest to accept and understand. In everything and everyone, the only barrier that truly exists between going after what you desire and not going after it relies upon YOU. The barrier is inevitably and always will be in the end: yourself. No one can truly motivate you to do something without your consent. Therefore, the barrier isn't a question of finding real love, because love isn't something than can ever be attained by physical means. It's not something tangible or materialistic. You can't buy love, just as you can't make or force someone to love you and vise versa.

Through the wisdom of lessons learned, love can only be discovered by a pure heart'. So what does having a pure heart' have to do with love? Purity of heart is akin to purity of self. No, I do not mean you have to be a squeaky-clean virgin to discover love in its purest form. As the saying goes you cannot love another until you love yourself', and in this case, it is as valid and true as ever.

When you approach the concept of love, it's usually threaded with very diverse complications and misunderstandings. Love can be often associated with lusting, desiring, and longing after something or someone. However if your own perception of love is tainted then so are your ideas and approach on it.

What I believe what the term real love' is conveying is the purest form of love unconditional love. Love is actually very simple to understand once you strip away the complexes and paranoia people tag unto it. Unconditional love is the freedom to love without fear, without judgment, and without ego. And yes, people can love somebody else unconditionally, even though they may not realize the definition of what they're giving. Everyone has the ability to do so, because it's engrained within them. It's like mothers and maternal instincts. Everyone has the instinctive and intuitive nature to embrace love and love unconditionally.

The problem is you don't recognize it, because your own version of love is tainted. You see unconditional love for someone else is easily understood, but it's the unconditional love of oneself that people don't understand. Both loving someone and loving yourself unconditionally is (if not) imperative in understanding what it truly is all about. They both work together and must be balanced in order for the purest

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