by Vivian Edwards

Created on: June 09, 2008   Last Updated: March 07, 2011

After many tips from many people this is what worked for me.

Dear child,

I wanted to talk with you about some things but that does not appear to be working out so I have decided to write to you. I know that you don't like to get notes from me but then you don't like to talk to me either. This is something that I am doing for me.

When you are disrespectful I would like you to know that my feelings get very hurt. I am not concerned that you may care or feel fulfilled with this thought, it was just important that I tell you.

When you are angry all of the time you are really hard to be around and even I don't want to include you in things.

You pout when I am doing something very nice for you and when I am not, so I have decided that I will save myself the aggravation and time spent, not to mention the money I will save, and we just won't do anything.

You do not want me to make comments about you when you are rolling your eyes and have the pouting mouth but I am simply trying to call your attention to it. Do you need to go to the eye doctor? Why? Well your eyes seem to be rolling around in your head uncontrollably.
Did you have collagen shots in your lips when I wasn't looking? Why? Well they seem swollen to me.

I apologize for making those comments but I am trying to use a bit of humor to get you to think a little bit.

You expect everything to go your way and even when it does it is not good enough. I would like to know why. Once again, not important that you tell me or even think about it, I just needed to say it.

I know that hormones are raging within you and guess what? They are also raging within me. Fun huh? You are not the only one experiencing the "I have one nerve left and you are on it" issue. I just wanted you to know.

Wanting to take some time to yourself is a wonderful thing, but staying in your room for hours on end, although it does give me some peace, can only lead to more problems than we already have. You may have time to be alone but not as much as you have been taking and when you are out with us you will either act right or not. It does not matter to me at this point. I wouldn't want to expect too much out of you or expect it to be pleasant for either of us. You have the power to make it good or unpleasant. I know you like that.

I have done everything to make you feel love and security since you were born that I possibly can. I have been there for you, with all of me. At anytime you would want to "talk" about your feelings and hurts, I would love to be there for you. I want you to know that the issue is not closed if you do need to talk. I will however not be attacked by the subject.

I was your age once, yes dear-a long time ago, but I remember doing many things that you are being judged guilty of with this letter. I would like to say however, that it never got far enough with me to have to get a letter like this. You have pushed the boundaries, not I.

Well I feel better and that's what this was about. The rest is up to you.

Let me know.

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