Forgiveness is the key to serenity. I always knew it was true, but peace of mind is hard to find in a bitter mind. There couldn't possibly be a human being more bitter than I used to be and forgiveness seemed to be too far from my ability to reach. I'd tell you why, but if I did, I'd have to go back down that bitter road again, so I won't go there. Even so and although I refuse to go back down that bitterness road, I'd like to describe my journey to find forgiveness. which lead me to peace of mind. Just keep in mind that forgiveness released bitterness from me and literally saved my life. That's the first reason why we need to forgive and be forgiven in life.
WHAT FORGIVENESS BRINGS TO HUMAN BEINGS:
Another reason we need forgiveness is due to the fact that we are human beings who get mad or sad and when we do, we tend to dwell within those mad or sad thoughts for far too long. Since that's true, sometimes mad and sad becomes like a cell in hell, where we remain victimized. The only key to unlock the prison is to forgive or be forgiven.
Bitterness comes from resentment which derives from anger and all three revolve around fear. When we get angry, it meas we're afraid of something. What that might be could be hidden in the back of our minds, but most likely it's due to the fact that we get confused when it comes to the truth. The truth is why they say, "God works in mysterious ways." The following true things are the reason why forgiveness is required in life.
THE TRUTH: STRIFE, DEMISE AND LIFE
1. The truth is that life will never be fair and square for each and every human being.
We are born equally valued with the right to a happy life, but the catch is the fact that God gave each and every human being a free will to chose. This means we get confused. The diversity leads to bad people, things and happenings now and then. The confusion also brings sin, but God gave us the key to surviving sin in the end. Due to this truth, I've learned a few things about life and why God gave us the ability to forgive people, things, happenings and the sin that we, unintentionally attract to our lives.
2. For every demise, God leaves a blessing in disguise and a lesson for life.
I've come to believe we are only here to learn and teach. If we arrived as, "a know it all," there would be no purpose to life at all. God gave us the tools and a few universal rules to use as a map to the truth. The truth is that we have the ability to choose our destiny, find peace of mind at all times and survive all strife and every demise. Still, the greatest of all is the truth that forgiveness gives us the power to change, rearrange and heal our bodies, minds and life. The reason they say, "God works in mysterious ways," is due to the truth that God leaves a blessing in disguise behind every demise.
3. Gratitude is the key to forgiving anyone or anything.
Oprah said it best. "The more grateful you are, the more you'll find to be grateful for." It's true, but I had no clue that I could find an attitude of gratitude in my bitter mind until I learned another true fact about life. "What we resist will persist," which leads me to the next true fact about life.
4. The more we resist forgiveness, the more forgiveness we'll need to find.
How simple it seems today, but I tend to learn things the hard way. I kept trying to justify the bitterness in my mind by re-hashing the past by focusing my mind on the bad person, thing or happening all the time. The bitterness began to stew and brewed into a deadly disease that might have cost my life if I hadn't finally seen the light, which leads to truth number five.
5. Anger, resentment and bitterness are toxic to our body and mind.
Bitterness is a poison we take as we expectantly wait for the other guy to die. That's why holding onto bitterness makes no sense and can do nothing to justify our bitterness. For me, it created a disease, but ironically, it was the disease which released the bitterness from me. You see, forgiveness means that bitterness must be released, so don't wait for a deadly disease to do that for you. Instead, look for the gift left behind the demise so that you can use gratitude to release the toxic effect of bitterness. If you need a tip, try this.
Sit whomever or whatever you are bitter against in a chair, and be aware that he, she or it is there. Look your bitterness in the eye and say, "Thanks for giving me the experience." By saying, "Thank you," you are expressing gratitude, but if you'll look closely, you'll also see the word, "forgiveness," in that sentence. The two must be combined to find peace of mind.
It may be hard to say, but when you do, soon you'll find a forgiving mind, which leads to the release of toxic things that poison your life. The reason this is true is due to the next truth I'd like to share with you.
6. Thoughts become things.
It's just one of God's universal laws. We know the law of gravity is true because we have proof. The proof tells us it's true that what goes up must come down. The law of attraction is also true and it's a fact that our thoughts become things and lead us to our destiny. If you think bitter thoughts, soon you'll believe life is unfair and the universe will send more people, things and happenings to prove what you believe is true. It's just what we humans do. We create things. What we believe becomes our reality, but the good news is that we have the power to change and rearrange our destiny to a new and improved truth, which leads me to the last true fact.
7. You'd better face your fear or the monsters in your mind will bite your behind all the time.
Fear was my worst enemy and if you are a human being, fear is probably your worst enemy too. Fear makes us lack, hold back and believe those lies from our bitter minds. That's why we say, "Life isn't fair for me." It's why we choose to dwell within our own hell of self pity where, "Boo-hoo," becomes our middle name until it becomes hate, and hate is a big mistake.
That's when the bitterness sets in, so take my advice and be wise. Look for the gift left behind with every human strife, fight or demise. When you do, you see a new and improved attitude of gratitude, which makes forgiveness easier to find. It's true. Forgiveness is the key to healing the mind, body and soul. Believe me. I should know.
To Conclude:
Some things are worth repeating, so say every day, "Every demise leaves a blessing in disguise." You might need to fake it until you make it come true for you, but when you do, you'll finally see the gift that forgiveness brings. So, to conclude, I hope I've left you with a new and improved attitude of gratitude and the ability to see that forgiveness is the key to a happy, abundant life with peace of mind at all times.