by Mae M. G.

Created on: June 07, 2008

There are many signs that indicate when and inevitably why enough is enough. However, many of us often fall victim to the classic case of denial. We allow ourselves to keep believing that he or she will change or that the situation will blow over eventually. We create continuous excuses that will only create false hope and wishful-thinking. It is incredibly hard to just throw in the towel and call it quits, especially after investing so much time and effort into the relationship.

Unfortunately, the longer you wait, the harder it will be and the more painful it will become. There is a time for everything and sometimes you have to face everything head on. Speaking from experience, the signs I've had to face are the following:
*When there's a loss or lack of communication
*When you can't look or see them the way you once did (and know deep down inside you never will again)
*When your heart isn't in it anymore
*When you start compromising your happiness and sense of self-worth in order to keep your relationship together
*When you start to become interested in other people

I'm not saying these are glaring code-red hazardous signs, but they are conclusive evidence in taking the time to look at your relationship objectively. Believe me this was one of the hardest decisions I've had to make. Through moral support of my friends and family, they've helped me through this decision (whether it be, by lending an ear or even hearing those harsh remarks about your loved one's behavior). There are reasons why they may say the things they do and it's also helpful to see things from their perspective. They may see things that you initially can't or and maybe refuse to.

Upon reflection, I'm hoping to reiterate a detailed reasoning behind these signs I've given above and why they should be indicators to examining your relationship. Though they do speak for themselves, sometimes it's more valid when it's applied to a real person who has dealt with this situation.

WHEN THERE IS A LACK OF COMMUNICATION I'm certain everyone has heard that motto or adage of communication is the key' and it is as important as the saying entails. Communication is what keeps the airways clear in your relationship. It creates a sense of personal balance and harmony between both parties when communication is efficiently utilized. When you're both candid about your needs, wants, and even complaints, you find a sense of trust established when you can openly share your thoughts and feelings with one another. This creates

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