by Lindy Abrahams

Created on: June 07, 2008   Last Updated: June 10, 2008

This has always been a hard one for me because I've always made the effort to get along with the people I work with. I've found that the working environment is much lighter when everyone can leave their personal baggage in their personal closet. Not to bring it to work. Personal drama needs to be left outside the office door and if need be only collected when leaving work and not before.

Recently though, I had been having a problem with a certain someone at my work place.
It was not all ugly and war, it was very subtle and a lot more worrying. When we worked together we would flash fake smiles and have a brief polite chat about nothing in particular, but there was always this under lying problem that just seemed to grate at me.

For the sake of office peace I'd personally tried to ignore this feeling and I continued to play into the fake drama of politeness, but it was becoming a real drain to my being. I realized that it takes more energy to fake it than to be upfront and true. By true I don't mean being truthful about how you feel about the other person. If what you have to say to the other person is going to put them down in anyway, it will serve no purpose to either of you. By being true I mean being true to yourself.

I decided to let this one go. I admitted to myself that I didn't like this person and I stopped trying to force something that was not working. Ever since that decision a funny thing happened. Every time I saw her in the office there she had no more effect on me. I didn't like her, so what. We can't like or love everyone. I stopped making it an issue and let it go. I can actually talk to her without feeling the need to pretend.

The moment I gave up the resistances about how I felt about her, the dislike towards her disappeared. I still don't like her, but I don't hate her either. It's not a deep seated thing that controls my actions anymore. What's between us just is. It's just easier to work with her knowing very well that we will just never get along and that's okay. It doesn't change her in anyway and I will not say or do anything to disrespect her in anyway.

In life we can't like everyone and everyone is not going to like us. Let's not make this a reason to hurt another human being either by our words or our actions. Accepting what is, letting it go and moving on is the best for everyone. You will be surprised what happens next!

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