by Aubrey Clark

Created on: June 06, 2008   Last Updated: August 19, 2011

There are many techniques to negotiating a new home purchase. Almost everyone has their own brand and approach to negotiating, as evidenced by the dozens of books written on the subject. There really a right and wrong way to negotiate as long as you have the basics down. The biggest difference in negotiations is the personality and egos of the people who are negotiating. That being said, I thought I would chime in and share some of the negotiating tips I have learned over my last 15 years in the mortgage business. These are what I would call "the basics", with a twist of my personality added for good measure. I hope you enjoy.

The Golden Rule

Negotiating is a game of leverage, meaning the person that has the advantage in a negotiation is most likely the one to emerge victorious in that round of the negotiations. I emphasized "that round" for a reason, because when buying a home, the price is only the first battle in a long string of negotiations. Knowing who has the advantage in each round of negotiations is a key factor to winning the war.

For example:

Let's assume that you and your wife have found a home that you love and want to buy. Whether you know it or not, when you make an offer on a home you are negotiating from a position of weakness. The owner knows that you want to buy the house or else you wouldn't be making them an offer to buy it. Apart from those sellers that are in bad financial shape, the seller will usually win the first battle. Advantage seller

However, most people forget that the negotiations last throughout the length of the sale until the deal is closed. A mortgage transaction could take as long as a month and maybe longer to close. You still have appraisals, home inspections, mortgage issues and many other negotiating battles to be fought and won. So, don't be too hard on yourself if you didn't come out of the first round of negotiations "smelling like a rose," just get ready for the second round.

Meanwhile, the seller has put a chunk of his own money down on a new home in anticipation of you buying his home. He has scheduled movers, picked out drapes, and applied for a mortgage. The savvy negotiator realizes that the once reluctant seller is not so reluctant anymore. The power in the negotiations has now shifted, just in time for the home inspector. It's now the seller that needs you to do something for him, namely buy his house. Advantage buyer.

Deal with a motivated seller:

Have you ever began negotiations with someone who has the

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