by Mary Murck

Created on: June 06, 2008

People laugh at how far the term "politically correct" has gone in recent years. We balk at having to "weigh our words" or "walk on eggshells" to avoid offending someone. I believe that both personally and professionally we absolutely should go out of our way to avoid discrimination, exclusion, and just plain hurt. Going overboard with phrasing can get to point of silly, but in general, the idea of being "politically correct" is really to avoid insults, stereotypes, and disrespect.

If we use terms like the "Golden Rule" - - meaning treating others as we would like to be treated - - it helps. Some people claim we need to be a step above that, and must use the "Platinum Rule" - - meaning treating others as THEY would like to be treated - - even better. However, that requires figuring out what offends them and working within that framework. It is the ideal.

One is better off not to assume people have the same sense as humor as they do. People can laugh and enjoy each other without put-downs or insults to any particular group. It can be laughing at situations, ironies at work, or just silly things, without alienating a specific group or individual, lifestyle or characteristic. It just takes sensitivity and a sense of professionalism. At work, one should approach situations differently then at home or in a casual environment. We can't just walk out of the workplace, so we are limited in options to when offended at work.

In being professional, develop a sensitivity toward others. Always make sure to value differences among others, without being overly solicitous. Be aware that calling out someone's characteristics, culture, or affiliation may seem like prejudice or discrimination to that individual.

Make sure to develop a "sixth sense" noticing when someone is uncomfortable with conversation or just doesn't participate. You (or the group) may have overstepped some boundary that the person is sensitized about, give them some respect. There is no reason to continue a conversation with someone who is showing signs of discomfort.

Another important thing to remember is that when you are at work, you are expected to behave in a professional way. Even if you aren't inclined to be courteous and careful in other settings, at work being too familiar, loose with language, and edgy with conversation is out of place. Use good judgment in the way you talk, carry yourself, dress and communicate with others at work. This will go a long way in keeping your job behaviors politically correct.

There are many examples of ways to avoid offending someone at work, but key in all of them is to listen, to notice, and to be careful. "Think before you speak" is always good advice for keeping it real at work!

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