by Lori Salsgiver

Created on: June 05, 2008   Last Updated: June 07, 2008

If you were to meet a fish at the end of a river, you would not ask how he got there. It's not always important how you got somewhere but that you have arrived. This same analogy applies to relationships. A husband should not feel obligated to share his romantic interests to his wife. A wife should allow her husband to keep his secrets about his previous relationships. Women have a tendency for being insecure causing them to compare themselves to others. If your husband rambles on about past romantic adventures, we are more likely to compare ourselves to them and doubt our ability to satisfy our husbands.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /

> Relationships are like stepping stones. We have to walk many a stepping stone before finding our spouses. With every relationship, we learn new things and learn from mistakes. Romantic adventures will be different with every partner. It's important not to get hung up on what your husband has done in the past with previous women. His experience with them will be different then the intimacy he shares with you. Prying into his romantic past can cause tension between the two of you if he isn't comfortable about sharing this information. Intimacy is different to everyone. We express intimacy in different ways with different people. If a wife expects to hear about her husbands past, she must take the good with the bad. He might tell you things you do not want to hear. He may have been more experimental at a younger age or tried things that you don't agree with. He may feel that if he tells you about his romantic past that you will expect the same level of intimacy. Men tend to be more physical then women and experiment more. As men mature and settle into their like and dislikes that will more then likely change. He will also do many gestures that he may not have done with other interests. I say to any wife, leave the past in the past. He has chosen to be with you and not them. You need to focus on being with each other and satisfying each other. Bringing up the past can cause frustration on both parts and is not necessary. If he volunteers this information, take it with a grain of salt and move on. Don't compare yourself to his past love interests and try to meet their standards. You are an individual and he loves you for who you are. Enjoy being one with your husband and showing him that you love him for the here and now.

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