by Melissa Bagley

Created on: June 04, 2008   Last Updated: November 03, 2009

It is such a difficult thing to think of having to give up the life inside of you that is a part of you. What will this child look like? What will happen to him/her during her lifetime? What will I, the parent feel like while I am living my life without the child that I gave up?

I have known a few people who gave up children to adoption and I have known some that were adopted. There are questions on both sides of the fence. One lady in particular was always looking at people all around he, trying to picture the person as her child. It was constantly haunting her. She couldn't function as a person because of the day that she gave up that beautiful baby of hers. She had been young when she gave it up and the fact that her parents didn't give her a choice in the matter made it that much more unbearable. In those days you didn't get pregnant out of wedlock. It was just not done. So they made the decision for her.

Luckily, now, at least girls have more of a choice as to what they want to do. And though it is very, very sad that more and more young girls who should be playing dolls are having babies; at least they aren't considered really horrible people for the fact that they have a child before marriage. So, what do you do? What will happen if you keep your baby? What is the worst thing that could happen? What is the best thing that could happen?

Children are a gift and are a source of great joy. They are also a source of great pain sometimes. And a lot of sacrifice is involved. Stay up all night with a sick, screaming baby and you realize that it isn't all giggles and cooing. But then they lavish all these wet kisses on your face and pull your hair at the same time. There is so much love involved with a baby that you just can't begin to understand how much you could love another person until that person is your child. I know that I would walk through fire for mine. How could I separate myself from this little life that I have been given?

So, you are thinking that you want to give up the baby because he/she won't have a lot? That they will have to live in a run down apartment and be in a daycare all day while you work? You'll have to struggle for money to buy diapers. You won't have enough time in the day to pay attention to your child because you will be so tired? We live in a world where material possessions are so important that the big picture can't even be seen. There is a lot more to life than "stuff". Did my children get all the latest fashions and does

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