by Cieara Wilson

Created on: June 04, 2008   Last Updated: June 07, 2008

Not only can long distance relationships work, anything can work if people are willing to work for it; I am living proof.

I was in a long distance relationship for nearly a year and what I learned is distance does not automatically mean doom, in fact, I believe distance just brings on the inevitable more quickly. In fact while my love and I were separated our relationship seemingly thrived more than those around me who were able to always be around their significant other. There were many of factors that came into play that made my long distance relationship a success; here are a few:

1. Realize what you getting yourself into.

Be honest with the other person, sometimes you'll get so frustrated because you two are apart. You may say things you do not mean, right then though, before saying something hurtful. Be honest, talk about your frustration. Are you really willing to deal with the possible stress and frustration that comes along with a long distance relationship?

2. Communication...Communication...Communication, and to those who did not hear me...COMMUNICATION!

If communication is broken down in a "normal" relationship their will be huge problems, those problems will only become worst in a long distance relationship. Open communication is the essential glue that will hold the relationship together even in the worst of times. Insecurity through the form of jealously can rear its ugly head easily in a long distance relationship, so it is good to be able to talk about how you feel to the other person.

3. Future (Goals)

I would assume if two people are seriously going to put in the work for a long distance relationship, they obviously have some sort of future in mind. Setting goals and speaking in future tense will give you both something to look and work towards in those times of despair.

4. Be creative

Because you are in a "distance challenged" relationship creativity will become really essential. Letters, videos, pictures, all of it will bridge the gap between you two and show the other person you are thinking of them even when they are not around.

5. Don't allow others to discourage you.

If this relationship is want you two want, do not allow others opinions and feelings to discourage you. It is great to have the support of others, but honestly, it is not necessary. I've heard someone wise say something like this, "Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one." If you keep that in truth in mind what people say or don't should not effect you.

My experience with my long distance relationship was that of one with many ups and downs but all and all a worth while ride and definitely a growing up experience.

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