by Jemuel Johnson

Created on: June 03, 2008

It is something that seems will always be around. Although it does not dominate serious relationships, it is a reality a lot of people have faced. Cheating. The word itself drips of scandal. Webster's dictionary defines "cheat" as "Deception; fraud; swindle." Also, "An imposter; to trick." And this is involving people we so-called "love." At any rate, cheating should be abstained from for four very good reasons that I will touch on.

Sexually transmitted diseases are never something to be envied. People do not like to talk about this and for good, obvious reasons. When one goes outside the relationship for sex, of course it may seem thrilling and new, but that sexual security is gone. Even with protection one is taking a big dare. Condoms have never broke? When one is prepared to cheat are they even thinking about something this important? Does one ask the person they are cheating with to get tested? Of course they don't. Look, it is a tradeoff indeed. A good time or emotion satisfaction in exchange for safety. Furthermore, one is bringing whatever they got outside back inside with their partner and the poor saga unfolds.

Somewhat on a similar note is getting pregnant or getting someone besides one's partner pregnant. If this happens, things will get complicated in a hurry. Abortion? Not tell one's partner the truth? This is the cover-up of a lifetime. One will see how events turn out based on a lie. The consequences certainly could be more than one bargained for. And if one picks honesty, only different devastation applies. Having a child with someone one has an affair with is a chilling thought. One's partner is traumatized. For him or her, to stay or go are seemingly both miserable options. If one stays it would be an utter challenge to look at one's partner with respect again.

Emotional chaos is a very good reason to avoid cheating. If one's partner finds out, the cheater has unleashed misery for who knows how long. For the victim, it will haunt and tear at the mind. There will be no peace. It may even creep into one's dreams. On a multiple of levels, it is terror knowing or imagining the details of the cheater's sexual encounters. The victim took pride and happiness in the fact or belief that their partner was merely for them. Off limits to anyone else. This belief was forced to be abandoned. The cheater has no idea what the victim is going through on a daily basis. Even if feelings are shared, it is but a beam of the real, daily, grinding, ceaseless pain of being cheated on.

The final reason to avoid cheating is morals. Yes. One's character. How about that? A cheater is cheating for oneself. This is extremely selfish and irresponsible. One's thirty whopping minutes of pleasure reveals a chronic demise in character. Cheating may seem cool to some, but selfishness and irresponsibility is never to be admired. It should forever be looked down upon and sneered at. A cheater cares about one extremely significant thing-themselves.

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