SEX IS SKIN DEEP but LOVE cuts through the skin and goes to the EMOTIONS, MIND, and SOUL. While sex is replaceable and love is not, both are a MYSTERY and sometimes the lines of separation are not so clear. Yet, WHEN YOU'RE IN LOVE YOU JUST KNOW YOU ARE!
Books and poems have been written, songs have been sung, music has been played, and people have danced: all and more in the name of love. But, what is this love we all want and need and somehow we never totally find?
Sexuality draws us together like a magnet but left totally free, it can dominate our body and unleashed it can turn into LUST taking over our life. CHEMISTRY between men and women is natural and beautiful. How else would have the human species have survived?
When sexuality turns into lust, we are totally focused on getting more and more pleasure. Who provides this is not so relevant but one more new and exciting experience is. We use others and others use us to get more and more pleasure.
When lust overcomes us we are able to separate creation from sexuality. Creating LIFE, is not the aim even if at times this is the result.
The top priority in lust is to satisfy ourselves more and more and it is almost irrelevant who or what it is. We are dictated to just keep going.
As lust takes over us we begin to get a very empty feeling. We are less and less satisfied but keep going anyway.
Some go through a whole lifetime experiencing lust but never love, yet it is love that all men and women truly desire. When men and women fall in love they generally marry and it is no coincidence the institution of MARRIAGE has been around for thousands of years with every society. When two people are in love there is that pressing desire to have children and most couples do give LIFE. The children are the creations of their love.
No matter what our past experience has been, we must be open to love. This is not easy if we are drunk with lust but it can happen if we want to deep within us. If we fall in love with someone it is easier and natural, on the other hand we have to be freed from lust since IT is used to command our senses in an authoritarian way.
We must not give up since many people moved from lust to love throughout many generations. Getting control over our sexuality IS possible! We can do it if we admit that we are a slave to our passions and that we want to be free. If we have faith, somehow GOD gives us the power if we co-operate.
Some saints even had a difficult time with lust. ST. AUGUSTINE, a famous Roman Catholic Saint pleaded with God to set him free, but not yet! His mother, ST. MONICA, loving and knowing her son prayed until he was indeed freed from lust. And free he became. His writings have been admired for centuries. He did not fall in love with a woman but with GOD and the CHURCH.
Whether we can truly love without being freed from lust is not so clear but with most men and women, having discipline of our emotions is a preliminary to love.
We can understand love when we see two people in love. They are together as much as possible and radiate their attraction for each other. They are so happy! Sooner or later they marry, have kids, and grow together in old age with grandchildren around them.
Fidelity is natural for a couple in love since no one can replace that person. Neither one of them is interested in going with anyone else. They want to be with each other. Even though their physical attraction is so strong for each other, in Christianity and other religions, that desire ought not to be fulfilled until marriage. While this is very difficult for us to understand in our modern society since we are bombarded with sounds and images of sex, many couples in the past and today wait for the wedding night to express their physical love for each other.
Sexuality is at its best when two people are in love since each is focused on not only receiving pleasure but giving pleasure to the other. Love makes every aspect of sexuality natural and beautiful. Each experience is new and thrilling.
When we love someone we just don't love their body but we go further and dwell into their emotions. Somehow we feel their joy, sorrow, and pain. We want to know why and try to make them feel better. If we're at fault, we are sorry, and try to make it up to them. The other reaches deep into our emotions as well. This interplay of emotions makes us feel so very loved and frees us to think of ourselves and think of the beloved. Somehow in a mysterious way we go beyond ourselves into the other whom we love.
Most of us barely know ourselves letting alone another human being. However, when we love we
dwell into the intellect of the other. We fall in love with their mind and the intellectual communication is endless. We never truly know the other and are surprised by some of their comments or observations.
People in love just know they become part of something so much bigger than their love which leads them to the intimacy of their soul. This is where GOD IS MOST ALIVE, IN THEIR LOVE.
LOVE IS TIMELESS while lust lives for the moment. Those who are in love, love for a lifetime and beyond. No one will take their place and even after their body is no longer there, their spirit and their love is always alive until the end of time. Not only these marriages are made in HEAVEN but end up in heaven.
ROMANCE is a big part of falling in love and throughout the life of the lovers. Flowers, music, dance, elegant dining, and so much more are all part of expressing the love for each other. In wedding receptions in many cultures we not only feel that love from the newly weds but also with the older couples dancing around the bride and groom smiling while remembering their wedding night.
Love is endless while lust is for the moment. When we love we love that person when they look their best and when they look their worst. We love them when they are ecstatic, joyful, sad, angry, or however they feel.
Lust is only concerned in getting the pleasure while love gives pleasure while receiving it. Those who love are concerned with feelings and want what is good for the other. In illness the other does everything he or she can to care for the other. When we love and are loved we feel a certain security that no matter what, we will be cared for and everything will be fine. Everyone should feel that way so everyone needs to fall in love.