In this day and age we have many factors contributing to relationships. We have nationality, religion, gender, sexual preference, and so on. The list can become very big. I believe the foundation of a relationship is most important. Never mind the rest of the factors. The foundation of relationships is just like building a house, meaning you have layers, then a completed product. The layers are; love, loyalty, trust, respect, communication, and fidelity. They may not necessarily occur in that order. That all depends on you (the reader). Now let's go through all the layers. Love, is important because if you do not love the person then the relationship portion will not work. Some people think maybe I can grow to love that person, or I can learn to love that person. If a certain amount of time goes by (3-6 months), and you do not find yourself in love with that person, then a relationship, most likely will not work. When I say in love, I mean, you care for this person more than anyone else. You can see yourself with this person for a long time. In ten years you can still see yourself with this person. Loyalty to a relationship is a matter of respect and pride for your loved one. No matter what, you will never betray this persons' trust or confidence. That no matter the situation, you will be there for that person to help, comfort, and advise them. Trust is the cornerstone of a relationship. I truly believe if you do not trust the person you are with, then you do not have a relationship.
You have to be able to trust this person with your heart and life. If you do not then you are wasting your time. You have to know that this person will keep your heart and precious secrets safe. Respect, is important because it goes much deeper than the respect you were taught to have for your elders. I runs deeper. You honestly would not do anything to offend or hurt this person. It goes beck to the saying "treat people how you would want to be treated." Well, you wouldn't want this person to disrespect you, would you? You wouldn't want them to hurt you in any way either. Respect is another big one for me. Communication is vital in a relationship because it is the way that person is going to get to know you, and understand you. It is the only way they will know what makes you angry, and happy. It is the only way you can make the relationship blossom, grow, and thrive. You have to talk to that person, tell how you feel, and what you think about anything and everything. You have to open up to them and bear your soul, unable to keep anything from them. Last not but not least, fidelity. Fidelity stems from all the other layers. You love this person enough not to cheat on them. You respect them enough not to hurt them that way. You communicate with them enough
to be able to handle any situation. You trust them enough that would not to do the same to you. You are loyal to them no matter what the temptation. So those are the layers of a relationship and their importance. Those are the things I believe are important to relationship and will make it blossom, but you will find out for yourself.