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I grew up in a large family 3 brothers and 2 sisters.About 41 years ago my dad had an affair ,of which created another child.As we grew up we never met him and we were always told he wasn't our brother.Deep down inside I knew he was,I always wondered about him ,but i didn't dare mention it to my dad.It only took one time for me to make that mistake.my other siblings and i were never really close.My youngest sister i helped raise ,so she is like one of my own children.When i was 14 years old,my dad passed away,shortly after that I started searching for my long lost brother.My other brothers and sisters wanted no part of this,so I was on my own.I finally found him and all it took was one look to know he was my brother,he could have passed for a full blooded brother,instead of half.Instantly we clicked,we were so much alike it was crazy!I learned as much about his life as I could,as I tried to fill him in on ours.He grew up without a father and a mother who hated him,and yet somehow he turned into a wonderful man and one of the greatest fathers you could imagine.The only thing bad is that he has been married three times ,he seems to fall for all the wrong women.Shortly after we had only spent a couple of days together,he learned I was very sick and not sure how my outcome will be,unlike my other brothers and sisters,he immediately told me he wanted to take care of me.I am married and have my own family,but him saying that and meaning it really meant the world to me.We don't live very close and we don't get to spend alot of time together but when we are together we are inseperable.My husband doesn't understand why we want to be together so much or how we can be so close so fast,but like I told him,it would have to happen to you before you could possibly understand.I think he is jealous of the time we spend together and i hope he will realize soon that I really need my brother in my life,and he's not trying to take his place.It has been kind of tough juggling them ,but I think it is worth it.I was without him for 25 years of my life and I promised him that we would be together from now on,I will keep that promise.He has met one other sister and they get along just fine but not like me and him.Strange now after all these years all the other brothers and sisters want to meet him.They can be very rude at times and I have let them know I will not allow them to be cruel to him or make him feel out of place.After all,he didn't ask to be created so how can they judge him for that.My mother has met him and she adores him.She says she will act like his mother,and she wishes she met him long ago.The funny thing about that is,she was the only one who was hurt in that affair and she can accept him just like her own.He doesn't care if the other brothers and sisters accept him or not .He says I'm all the family he needs.How can a man grow up in such a horrible life and have such a big heart?I may never understand that,but he is for sure strong hearted and I"M proud to call him my big brother.

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