by edith bruce

Created on: June 01, 2008   Last Updated: January 19, 2009

For the record, I find it amusing how the two distinct terminologies in the question embeds the single but not solely black-and-white answer: bisexuals are not homosexuals and shouldn't be considered as one. But the answer can not be broken down or dissected into two separate lines of whether one is either bisexual or homosexual, because it's quite obvious how the two overlap.Bisexuals are attracted to the opposite sex and the same sex, hence the overlap. This doesn't mean bisexual should also be considered homosexuals because let's face it, it would be painfully difficult to blend a two bi-way preference into a single same-sex preference. I mean making the two terms synonymous is similar to calling a woman a man because the two have the word "man" in common just as sexuality is the common ground in these two labels.

One of the counterarguments state the hypocrisy of bisexuals due to their use of this self-labeled sexual orientation as a cover-up for their true homosexual tendencies. Critics (or blatant homophobes) say that these bisexuals are not only transgressing that holy gravestone-engraved bond between a man and woman, defiling it with their "hedonistic" indulgence for the same sex, but are also denying their homosexuality which apparently "overshadows" their similar attraction for the opposite sex. First, the whole homosexuality dominates bisexual tendencies to switch to the other side is quite frankly, impossible to quantify into "bisexuals genome exposed: same-sex attraction is the dominant allele while opposite-sex attraction is the recessive allele." It is not a question of whether one dominates the other and therefore bisexuality is a colorful term for those who are sexually-confused or bi-curious, but something much more less defined and definite.

Sexuality is such a strange aspect of human "identity" because I find it hard to believe it is constant and that we are either born gay or straight. That we are either good or evil, black or white, and brave or cowardly. It's safe to say that a lot of people fall somewhere in between, we both have good and evil tendencies, of mixed ancestry (I have a white father and Asian mother), and know when to stand up for oneself and keep the ego shut. Similarly, sexuality can have its shade of gray and we're not just born liking the opposite or same sex. If it was that defined, let's just say to bisexual, "Cut the heterosexual crap and just call yourself a lesbian or a gay person." No, sexuality can be fluid, just like intelligence, morality, spirituality and many other things that define someone.

But the more important question people should be debating about is: how different are bisexual AND homosexuals from heterosexuals besides the obvious gender preference and the religious and moral mores mired in their connotations? Is that "bond" between two people really defined by gender or defined by a universal feeling of love, compassion and even more love regardless of whether it is between a man and a woman, or two men, or two women. What in God's sacred principle or dutiful sinless commands, make heterosexual marriage more legitimate and "correct" than same-sex marriage?

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