by Jennifer Atkins

Created on: May 30, 2008   Last Updated: April 07, 2010

There can be tons of reasons that relationships fail. Probably more than reasons to succeed. unfortunately.

Relationships start with individuals. Everything about them can determine their success or failure in later relationships. Abuse as a child, their own self esteem, the kind of person they become during school years. Everything that happens in one's life is what forms them into the people they become as adults.

In my own life, I grew up seeing the way my friends and family members were treated by men. It caused me to be untrusting and very suspicious of the opposite sex. That caused me not to date until later years in my life.

In my own failed relationships, I can look back and see where most of the problem came from how they were raised and such. One relationship that failed miserably was because my boyfriend was very selfish. We always had to do what he wanted to do, party with his friends, eat what he wanted to eat. He also had this attitude of I'm the man, u do as I say. When I went with him to his parents house for dinner one night, I saw exactly where he got it from. His mother prepared dinner, kept the dishes done, served both her husband and her son their beverages while they sat on their butts watching tv. It didn't take me long to decide, I didn't want any part of that relationship anymore.

People are also getting into relationships younger and younger. Relationships are a responsibility. They should be a gift if they are right. Responsibility is something else that has to be learned and I believe they general population of kids under the age of 22 or 23 hasn't quite learned the meaning of the word responsibility so how can they have a successful relationship?

I believe that relationships should be taken seriously. That's a huge problem for younger people as well. Loneliness is a terrible reason to get involved. And I have seen friends get involve with the wrong person because of loneliness. I have seen them stay in bad and abusive relationships due to fear of loneliness.

I believe my marriage right now is on the road to failure. I will only be married a year in June and I can see that I have trouble with some of his attitudes and ideas and I see them so clearly coming from his mother. I honestly believe he married me so he would have someone to grow old with.

If you enter a relationship for any reason other than love, it has a good chance of failing. When there's feelings there at least you have something to work with.

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