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Alzheimer's disease steals what we know to be true, in those that are effected and those that are witness to it. A Grandparent is special in a child's life, not to mention in our own life as adults. Children have a wonderful way of communicating with those around them, and if you think about it, everything is so simple. Children see what we as adults choose not to look at. As a child of one of the afflicted we feel the pain inside as that parent has changed from what we have always known. Keep in mind that children still see through the eyes of a child. They don't see color of skin, disability or any other differences in others in general life. They simply see a new friend. With family that does not change as Grandpa or Grandma are just that, simply, through the eyes of the child.

Depending on the age of the child depends on how much they need to be told. If it is a very young child there is most likely no need to explain. If the child is older then it depends on how they are told and how questions are answered. That is where we as adults come in. We need to accept what we feel in order to help our children understand. Don't be afraid to face your feelings as that is your parent and yes this is painful. That is something you do with your significant other who can support you while you accept in your heart what you cannot change. Realize your pain and know that it is OK to cry. The one that you always reached to for support and advice is now different and changing every day. You are the one now that must stand on your own and that in itself is frightening. It is normal to feel angry, but in time, if you allow, memories will support you and acceptance will come. If that is your Dad or your Mom, be proud for they loved you and helped you to grow.

Children bring light into the room as they enter. Something as simple as laughter from a child and hearing that sweet voice brings a realization that something so simple can emit such loving feelings in a room full of people. No matter if the child is not yet walking or entering the teen years, that simple presence is proof that we have been blessed. Our Dad and Mom feel like that too but, take a moment and think; they feel double what we feel. There is their child and their child's child. That is such a profound statement and yet simple truth.

Depending on the situation if there has been bonding time between the Grandparent and child then ask that child how they feel about visitation. Remember to keep it "simple."

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