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every greeting card that you get. So, at relationship's end, you should pack these mementos up and put them on the top shelf in your closet. During the first month following a break-up, it is essential to do our best to not reflect on the terminated relationship. You may feel the urge to reminisce about last Valentines Day, but you will almost always end up feeling worse afterwards.

Lastly, remember that you have friends and family to talk to. My best friend leads one of the most private lifestyles of anyone I have ever met. I very seldom saw him with his former fiance. They broke up two months prior to the wedding because she was cheating on him with someone that she met at work. When this happened, he became even more withdrawn and brought himself into a seclusion that was ever so difficult to penetrate. I was not offended by this, and continued to make offers to go to the movies or out on the town to try to take his mind off of her. Eventually he told me what had happened and thanked me for all the support I had given him. Most of our friends will be there for us and will be the first ones we turn to. The first step in "relationship damage control" may be to solidify the relationships and bonds with our friends.

Don't forget: When a relationship ends, it may feel like the end of the world, but it most certainly is not. If you have money, go out and buy something nice for yourself. It will make you feel good about yourself and help you heal a little quicker. Find someone to talk to, other people's experiences can be quite helpful to you when you are in need. Try to get out and do new and interesting things, anything to take your mind off of your ex and into something more interesting. At all costs, AVOID alcohol and drugs. Turning to alcohol may make you feel better now, but once you sober up you will find that you have not made any progress whatsoever.

As hard as it can be to make a relationship work, it can be ten times harder to make your life work after a relationship. With a little support and healing, you will find yourself back on your feet in no time at all!

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