by J. James Reider

Created on: May 29, 2008

Unfortunately, when it comes to a broken heart, there is no quick fix. No doctor can write you a prescription for a medicine that will make you feel "all better". Break-ups can be very taxing on our emotions to say the least. I for one have all too often found myself a little more attached to someone than I should be, and the result is usually a "bruised" heart, at best.

What we too often forget, is that life does go on. This can be even more difficult to forget if we have to see our dreaded ex on a daily basis. Remember, when you have a broken heart, it will ALWAYS seem that your ex is doing better without you than you are doing without them. Although, this is sometimes true, more often than not it isn't so.

First off, when dealing with an emotional break-up, turn the radio to something more up-beat. Listening to "our song" or sad songs in general is just going to keep you down. It may be how you feel, but there are only so many tears you can shed. The edge will wear off after some time has passed, and you want to do everything in your power to hasten the process. It is understandable to have that attachment, and the longer you were with that person, the longer it will take to heal.

You also want to keep in mind that love can be the most potent, addicting legal drug there is. You know how it feels to love and be loved, and you want to feel that way again. Because of this fact, humans have the tendency to "rebound". That is, become attached to the first individual to give you some attention after a split. Remember that the individuals who are giving you this attention may have ulterior motives. The other part of the addiction to love is the compulsion to call or text your ex endlessly, desperately trying to get them to change their mind. If you really want them to change their mind, sometimes your best bet is to just give them space and let them think things through on their own. Sometimes people use break-ups as a leverage for something that they want out of a relationship, and while you think you have convinced them to change their mind, you may be falling right into a trap. Err on the side of caution, and you may find it less than appealing to take that person back.

In my experience in relationships, I have found it best to let the lady have all of her stuff back as soon as we break-up, whether she wants it back or not. This makes it less likely that I will be smelling her perfume on the "hoodie" that she left at my house. Also, if you are like me, you save

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