Lets first define between the two....
It's important to have friends in ones life. It breaks us from the family. It's kind of taking a breather. To separate having space and being with someone you've become familiar with. Especially when it comes to children and they've had the same friends for many years growing up. Discussions come easier for them, especially when they realize there is a lot in common between them through those years. Maybe the punishment is the same or their interests are the same etc. I'm not saying that one can't discuss with family. Most of discussions become heated into arguments and therefore nobody really gets anywhere resulting in bad feelings, grudges etc.

Parents and their children can be just as close as friends. Now a days there are better ways taught to handle these relationships to work for the better. discussions at the dinner table. Having sit down times in order to catch up on the latest that everyone has to discuss. To be able to air out problems or just to talk. It's said to be good for the soul! Times have changed and it seems that everyone is putting their best foot forward and are succeeding from their efforts.

There are friends and there are associates!
Friends usually stick by you through thick and thin. That doesn't mean going out and causing havoc, though. I'm talking about true honest and loving friends. Friends as in soul mates. Adults have these friends as well as teens. They can be the neighbor you've lived next door to for 30 years and your children grew up, went to the same school together. That's just an example. Friends that would not ever take advantage of you nor you of them. No matter what bridge you've crossed, they've crossed with you (just a matter of speaking). There for each other. True blue! Sometimes there may be differences, but both have a way of bouncing back due to the friendship and easily at that.

There are other friendships that happen on occasion, upon chance and can last for some time. Though I find in these friendships, that by the time the friendship has gone good fro a great deal of time,you realize there is something going wrong. That something is the fact that you trusted them and had a lot of discussions and confided in one another and it's not turned out the way you thought....
Down the road you get sick (for example) they don't have the time for you and start to fade out of your life gradually. They talk behind your back. They tell everything they know about you to others and the list goes on. Sound familiar? Well, it's sad to say it's too late but for the better that they fade. Later they may come around, once every 2 years or so and only when they want something. When you can't respond to their wants, they fade forever. The whole thing about this is that, you really don't know what kind of friends they are going to be to begin with. How do you know to have a discussion with them? We think there is trust right from the start, because we see things familiar and get lost in it. We want to have friends. We give it a try, right? These persons are not true friends and never will be.

Stick with the good old fashions for years and there is the friends to have discussions with. Remember that family can learn to be your closest friends, give them a try or second chance. Friendship still means love. One we can appreciate for life!

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