DIVORCE: A SYMPTOM OF THE DEEPER PROBLEM

Sixty percent of first marriages are disolving in our country... Seventy percent of second marriages are disolving into divorce... One million kids a year get hit by the pain of parents that decide to put their so called "happiness" and "freedom" above their kids, family, friends, spouses and the stability of our society. Seven out of ten marriages are filed by women accross America.75% percent of divorced male fathers loose their kids to custody battles. That means 75% percent of "divorce kids" growing up without a meaningful male figure in their lives and the "new luxury" of having two parents at home. Unbelievable trend!

We can take divorce as a sociological problem and study it analytically by statistical reports. We can look at it from the psychological perspective and decide that males and women are simply "screwed up"... Of course, we can do that!

My own take after a long time of research and listening to people going through the pain of divorce is that DIVORCE IS THE SYMPTOM OF A DEEPER PROBLEM.

I am not a religious person and our movement is not a religious movement. Our workshops, conferences and seminars are not religious events. But we have come to believe that DIVORCE is a symptom of a profound, deep, spiritual dimension. Simply put, divorce is a symptom of the state of the human heart.

People only stay together and connected on the basis of LOVE. We may have a difficult time defining love. But the foundation for community, family and marriage is LOVE. We don't need a degree on "rocket science" to conclude that! LOVE is the ability and the CHOICE to connect with people in meaningful ways.

Divorce happens when one spouse or both say... I HAVE CHOSEN NOT TO LOVE YOU ANYMORE. I HAVE CHOSEN NOT TO ALLOW YOU TO LOVE ME ANYMORE. Simple! All the cliche statements we hear like: "I have no more feelings for her," "She hurt me too much and I lost it all," are cosmetic statements to express one reality... FOR WHATEVER REASON I HAVE CHOSEN NOT TO LOVE THIS PERSON ANY LONGER AND I DON'T CARE TO OPEN UP TO BE LOVED BY MY SPOUSE. It's total self-containment.

There are three conditions preeceding a DIVORCE:

* Love is a CHOICE. Divorce is a choice not to love or allow to be loved any longer. Love may start as a feeling but it's always and ultimately a CHOICE. True love puts others first over our needs for well being, happiness, freedom and self-fulfillment. Love is true love when the crisis

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