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There's an old joke that says the quickest thing to stop a married couple's sex life is the wedding cake. Unfortunately, that's true in a lot of different relationships. Work, the pressures of paying the bills, children, maintaining a professional career, etc, etc all seem to come to bear with their full weight once the kids are in bed and it's just you and your mate. And, sad to say, the sex life of a marriage seems to be a good barometer of how the marriage is going...if the sex life is bad, well, that probably means the marriage ain't too good, either. So, what do you do about it?

Well, I've been married for twenty years, and, while my marriage has it's fills of ups and downs, I can honestly say that the sex life isn't one of them. So what are some of our tips for keeping the relationship fun and exciting in the bedroom?
Believe it or not, most of them are ones that really only make common sense, and yet we as a culture tend to put them on the back-burner. Here's our list of possible things that help us keep it going:

1. Make the time for your sex life. Nothing worse than climbing into the bed, expecting a passionate night, only to hear wood sawing on the other side of the bed. Talk about frustrating. So, plan your sexual encounters with each other. Make time for it just like you would a meeting at work or a hair appointment or a child's doctor appointment. Rearrange the things in the evening schedule so that block of time is unfettered by the other concerns of the day.
2. Leave everything else outside the bedroom door. When settling into the bed for a roll in the hay, no one wants to hear what Johnny did at school, or that the boss at work was working your last nerve, or that you have an appointment tomorrow to get the brakes done at the local shop. All of that needs to be discussed before or after you do your business, not during, as it will take the focus off of your intimacy and put it somewhere it doesn't belong. It's almost like inviting someone else into your bedroom; you wouldn't willingly do that, would you? So why unwittingly invite them in by discussing anything that doesn't involve what you are doing right here, right now?
3. Display affection to each other outside the bedroom. Believe it or not, romance/intimacy and all of the other things leading up to the grand finale starts outside the bedroom, not inside it. If you are waiting to get things heated up by the time you get into the bedroom, it's too late.

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