The question that always goes through your mind when someone who has cheated on you; should i give them another chance and stay with them or should I just end it. But you should take into accound these following questions: Will you honestely be able to fully trust them without the though in the back of your mind that they could be cheating on you again at anytime that you aren't around? Can you handle the fact that they didn't care enough about the relationship to stay faithful to you?

When one cheats on their partner, their lover, their boyfriend or their girlfriend (whichever you wish to choose), it causes a major trust issue with that person. The (i guess you could call it) victim of the cheating can no longer outrightly trust them 100%. And even if they manage to trick themsleves into doing so, how long will it be before their ignorance comes back to bite them in the butt?

Without trust, a relationship is worthless. Trust in your partner to fulfill their commitment to you is the basis of a healthy relationship, and like previously stated without the trust you might as well give it up.

To be able to completely understand this concept of being able to trust your partner and not have to worry about them cheating on you, you either one: have been cheated on, or two: cheated on your partner. Neither of which are good things and make you feel like a pile of poop, and if not, you don't have a heart, or never really loved the person to begin with.

I once tried to stay with my now ex fiance after she cheated on me when we were just dating. and to be brutally honest, it worked..... for a while. I just simply looked past the fact that she wasn't faithful to me (or at least I tried to make myself believe that it never happened), but it was really hard to do that. Im not sure that I truly came to the point that it didn't bother me anymore. Then crap hit the fan and I decided that it wasn't going to work.

The fact of the matter is, most people probably aren't going to be able to fully forgive or forget that their partner cheated on them at some point and it puts a huge void in the relationship.

I'm not telling you not to stay with someone who has, but I am warning you that it will be extremely difficult to do so care free. If you do choose to stay with someone after they cheat, then the best of luck to you. But in my opinion, just stay clear of it and find someone who cares enough not to lie to you, and break the issue of trust.

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