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Do you wonder what happened in your relationship when the sex is starting to fizzle? Do you feel that maybe you are getting old and unattractive? High blood pressure and being overweight can be the culprit.
A low-sex marriage is hard to accommodate for the active partner who is trying to adapt to her mates inability to get "excited." Impotence is one of the side-effects of blood pressure pills. Constantly badgering your mate to "give it up" will not make him/her come to you with open arms. Perhaps they are feeling that withdrawn from the relationship because of their frequent headaches and shortness of breath. Chest pains are another side-effect of blood pressure pills. These can deter your mate from wanting to engage in sexual activity.

So what's the other partner to do. Pleasure himself/herself. Fantasize. These are options that a doctor may give to the patient. Yet, how does the other spouse deal with this sort of rejection. Betrayal, rejection, feeling not wanted is often the result.
This brings up questions about the marriage. Was it based on sex? Or was it based on a deep emotional commitment? Did you have something in common? Or was it just sex?
This writer has to ask, "On what basis did you marry your spouse?" Did you enjoy spending time with him? Was he an escape from your life living under your parents rule? So many questions have been brought up as a result of this change in lifestyle.
How does one deal with it? Preoccupy yourself. Do not push. It will just push your spouse away and hurt you.
High Blood Pressure pills are the enemy. It's either take them and live some more years or don't take them and die with perhaps a smile on your face. Deal with it.
Solutions to the problem, I'll take suggestions. Don't feel pressure to stray because your mate can't perform. Remember, your mate did perform and he/she has made you very happy for a long time. Remember, your mate needs you more now then before. He/she has to deal with the fact that they are not rockin' your world like they used to. Hopefully, your mate can find something else that will rock your world. Maybe spend some more time together and go traveling. Visit places and do things you always wanted to do. Don't let time pass you by because you feel left behind. Go out and get active. Go have a life. Do what you haven't done before. Just remember to include your spouse.
Just because your spouse cannot get you off, you can. Find out what interests you and indulge in it. Talk to a friend about your worries, but make sure this friend can keep the details to themselves. We wouldn't want it to get out that you are having problems in the bedroom. This could lead to an argument over the embarrasement it will cause. Trust in yourself and in God. Remember, God would not put you in this situation if you could not handle it.

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