by Danyelle Scroggins

Created on: May 27, 2008   Last Updated: April 20, 2011

Have you ever had to let go? If you have ever had to let go you know it takes power.
People can try to pry you out, pray you out, and down-right pull you out. It is a known fact that no matter how bad the outside sees it, until you see it as bad and muster up enough power to leave, you will be right there. It is totally easier said than done so don't let anyone fool you into thinking, letting go is easy. I have been privy to being the one who needed to let go, and being the one hoping that someone would let go. Having experienced both sides I must agree that it is hard either way.

I have seen people who never pray, pray when they are caught in the place where letting go is required. You know how when you know he's no good for you but something just won't let you leave him alone. He fights you, he abuses you, he constantly uses you, but still you hold on. It's only until your prayer reaches the heavens that you make the first step. As the days go by you fight with the force that says, "He's changed, go back." The same force that suggest that you should just call or go over. Only to give in and in a matter of days have things go back to its' usual, normal, or typical ways. Then it's like a light flickering as a reminder that you've been here before and when your physical man is too tired to fight the fight of letting go, your spiritual man reminds you to simply let go and let God.

Like you, I often wondered, why indeed was letting go so hard? I've found that after you've shared your body, soul, and mind with a person, ties that bind are developed. These ties spiritually intertwined with emotions locks us into the notion that we need to need and be needed. "I can't let go because he or she needs me." Yes a familiar phrase that has been associated with the art of letting go for years. Did I just mention that it's an art to let go? Yes, it is because once you've let go once, you get better at it with time. The mastering of letting go as a art isn't always conducive to everlasting love because when it becomes an art, you often look for reasons to let go when there aren't any. So then letting go can be just as harming if you don't know how to do it, or if you do it every time you feel like it, for no reason at all.

I can and will never understand how people who are together for twenty five years just decide to let go. I believe it's all because they didn't decide to just stay. Commitment is so fragile these days and those who have totally committed have decided no matter what, to just stay. There are legitimate reasons for letting go and then there are sorry excuses for letting go. So my advice to you who need, want, and desire to let go, let God. Be mindful of why you're letting go because we must understand that we will reap what we sow. When you let God, He has ways of allowing you to see, in due season, why you should stay or why you should, let go.

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