by Danyelle Scroggins

Created on: May 27, 2008

In reality an affair is only considered a mistake when the person who fell in error realizes that he or she was in error. This realization happens before the activities of an affair is made reality. The word mistake means to error in thought, actions, to not understand something, or to form a wrong opinion about. Often when we think of mistakes, we like to evaluate a mistake to a small circumstance or situation like: wearing the wrong shoes, putting too much salt in the recipe, writing "to" when we should have wrote "too", or accusing someone of something that we really could not prove. To the average person these things are justified as mistakes because they were done without thought but innocently in error. No one ever considers an affair as a mistake because normally, relationships are entered into with much deliberations and thought whether we care to admit that or not.

When affairs begin, they often start with targeted flirtation, suggestive motions, and inquisitive conversation. It is then when you with an approving conscience decide that this is truly something that you shouldn't get involved with or you conscienceless flirt with the opportunity to engage in what seems to spark fatal emotions. The mistake would be to entertain such activity for a moment and then realize that it is deadly, demeaning activity and run from it. This is them justified as a mistake because one erred in the thought of entertaining such notions. When you entertain such activities as above described and allow what you think would be the gratification of the affair to fester in your mind, you create a dangerous path and a personal pit. The affair is then a choice and whether it's a good or bad choice, the choice in yours. It amazes me how we operate by the lust of the eyes first which compels the lust of the flesh and eventually we fall into the pride of life by doing what looks good, seem good, and feels good. Often the remorse of the affair doesn't manifest itself because we realize we've made a mistake but often the remorse only becomes evident when we get caught having the affair.

An affair is never just a mistake but instead just a bad choice. Our choices make up eighty percent of who we are. I say this because people weigh our quality as a human beings by our actions. If our actions are faulty then we are considered faulty. Affairs are faulty actions that you have to give in counter too! So whenever someone says to you that they made a mistake by getting into an affair, tell them they made a choice.

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