by Jeanette Mcdonough

Created on: May 26, 2008   Last Updated: February 11, 2011

Parents with children who have special needs have the same dreams and desires for their children as any other parent does but, they are often faced with circumstances that make accomplishing those goals difficult. Often parents who have children with special needs feel isolated. In addition, they may feel at a loss when certain issues come up with their child and they may not know where to turn for answers. One of the best things a parent in these circumstances can do is to reach out to others for professional and personal support. Parents can benefit by having a strong support system to help them provide the best opportunities for their children. Ideally a strong support system includes a qualified educational team, health care providers, and physical and occupational therapists. Support groups composed of other parents and caregivers may also be a tremendous help.

The initial diagnosis for a special needs child may come from the family physician, or a professional such as a teacher or school psychologist. When a diagnosis is confirmed a team of professionals is frequently assembled to help the individual child receive the appropriate services and support. Although there are still many schools that are designed specifically for children with special needs, many parents and advocates feel that children benefit by being able to attend public schools.

In public schools in the United States a team of special education teachers, school psychologists, regular education teachers, therapists and support staff will develop a comprehensive educational plan such as an IEP (Individual educational plan). The IEP includes goals specific for the child and their individual needs. For example, if the goal is to attain independence or life skills, each step in the process of attaining those goals will be outlined step by step. All members of the team are responsible to see that the objectives outlined are followed and that goals are monitored to provide the student with the best possible outcomes.

It is important to provide an environment that allows the child to reach whatever their potential is. One way for this to be accomplished is by setting goals that require the child to strive to accomplish them. Further set fair and reasonable expectations that the goals will be within their reach. For children who are included in regular classes, modifying text may help them learn key concepts that are part of the general lesson plan. The child should participate to the fullest of their ability and to gain something academically in the process. Some special needs children in regular classrooms may also benefit from a paraprofessional aid.

Children with special needs should be included in a wide assortment of social activities. Further, they benefit most in social situations when allowed to contribute to the conversation or activities rather than being passive observers. Making schedules of activities before hand and having a discussion that covers the upcoming event and what the can expect to happen will help relieve any anxieties they have about new people and strange situations.

One of the most important things a parent with special needs children can do help the quality of their child's live is to encourage independence. A child who is capable of doing things for themselves will have a higher level of self-esteem and confidence. In addition, the caregiver will also appreciate the child's efforts and help in their daily care. Parents with special needs children can benefit from finding a support network that includes other parents of children with similar challenges.

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