by Kristal Mcvicar

Created on: May 25, 2008   Last Updated: September 18, 2009

Marital infidelity should never be condoned in any way, shape or form. It is destructive emotionally and mentally and highly disrespectful to the partner being cheated on no matter the circumstances. The choice to leave is as available to a person, as the choice to be unfaithful..

However, I am also not so naive to believe that most people who are strapped within an unhappy or unsatisfying partnership, have the courage to leave before they take on a new lover. In some cases they simply do not want to leave for financial or a myriad of other reasons that, to many make absolutely no sense at all. But we all have our priorities in life.

I like things simple in life. My KISS theory........keep it simple stupid......We should all KISS more often.

If you are unhappy......either make yourself happy within, or if you are already a happy person within and the relationship still feels oppressive and unhappy due to the unhappiness of your partner, then you must conclude the relationship is unhealthy and beyond repair, and leave. If it appears both are happy individuals, it must be concluded, there is simply a basic incompatibility in your wants and needs within the relationship.

We only have the power to change ourselves and our own lives, not the option to try and change another. We can either accept another for the perfectly flawed individual they are, or we can leave. Trying to change another is never a happy, healthy or productive option in any relationship in life.

I have spent much time in recent months researching the many conclusions psychologists and sociologists have reached through studies to still my own curiosity on this matter. It seems in today's world there is so much more of it happening than in previous generations.

Many reasons can be concluded for this growing trend. Divorces are easier to achieve, women are more liberated and now have just as many affairs as their male counterparts do, it is not as negatively viewed as it once was, and we have built a society where instant gratification is the name of the game.

For a man or a woman to even consider the option of an affair speaks loudly to me of the actual state of the relationship, not the opportunity that may present itself. The old saying, "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink" has much more truth to it than perhaps we wish to acknowledge.

Marital infidelity is a choice a person makes to fulfill inside what they cannot fulfill themselves and are not receiving from their partner.

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