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For many parents, the diagnoses that your child might be a "special needs" child can often feel like a death knell. In many instances, such words will lead to denial, depression, and often divorce. Why? Because it's scary. Having a child who is "different" is a life-altering event. Give yourself a moment to let it sink in...Now get over it!

Believe it or not, your child is NOT that different. What's different is your perception. It's the same child you brought home from the hospital, but now you are on the path to understanding that child. Yes, they will "need" more from you, but it does not have to be a nightmare. In fact, you are now a part of a private and wonderful club that offers tons of free support. To begin with, here is some simple advice to help you "deal:"

1) Find the other "Special Needs" parents. They can help you when things seem impossible. They can encourage you when you are down and guide you when you feel lost. Look for posted signs where children play since events are often advertised in these areas. Also, check with your local schools, churches and newspapers to see where these groups meet, or ask another "Special Needs" parent when you meet one.

2) Set up a routine for your child and be firm when implementing it. Your child will test the limits just as much as a "Normal" child, and just like with a "Normal" child, you need to stand firm. It may seem difficult at first, because they WILL throw the mother of all tantrums, but don't let it bother you. Stand firm and separate them from others if necessary. Just don't give in and soon your child will be well behaved while still loving you madly.

3) Help your child find a way to express themselves. You may be thinking, "But my child cannot speak." Believe it or not, they can still communicate. They may not do so with words, but they often can through art, writing, singing, or even dance. They may even communicate through sports. Give them the chance to amaze you and they will.

4) Don't be afraid of the public school system. Your child will get to meet other children like them and learn everything they need to know to live a full life in the real world. They can also earn a high school diploma, and possibly even go onto college.

5) And lastly: Be patient, be firm, and be loving. This is not a punishment from God; it is a reward. You are about to find out just how strong you really are, and experience a type of unconditional love that only a select view will ever know. Congratulations.

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