by Barry Ng

Created on: May 22, 2008   Last Updated: December 12, 2009

Anger at work is unavoidable, especially in really stressful environments. People tend to get frustrated when they are pressured in work, feeling tired, etc. Some people have their family matters to attend to. All these factors sums up the frustration level, it makes people feel agitated easily.

I remembered what my father always told me, when I faced very angry people in my working place. He told me, "12% of the whole world's population will not like you, no matter how hard you try." I really agreed with what he said. So basically, he's trying to tell me that when you face an angry person, try to take everything with a smile.

Avoiding anger is really difficult, you will always face it. Nobody has a pleasant day at work every time. So when faced with such difficulties, always try to remain calm and relaxed. Further arguing with the person, will only cause more tensions to rise. It creates more anger and hatred between each other. After the person has scolded you, take a moment to speak with him/her. Share your inner thoughts, make the person happier, listen to his problems and frustrations. Let him/er understand that showing anger will never be the best solution. People in this modern society believe that sharing deeper thoughts and closing bonds together, will always make all your work life much easier and fun filled experience. Even if you choose not to tolerate the person and resign, tell him that he should change, explain to him why changes are for the better. Make the next person that comes in have a pleasant experience.

Remember that taking it easy will never be the best solution. But it definitely will help you to not absorb more negative feelings in you. These negative feelings will make you feel like a very angry person as time goes by. These anger management issues, when not resolved, will make your family members suffer deeply. Because you already feel agitated by issues in your working place, you do not want to add more stress to your family life too. I feel that it has a 40% chance of you, the angry person, making your family members feel afraid of discussing important issues with you. They will not share personal problems with you.

These factors will hurt family ties and bonds. Children at a young age, are very afraid of facing an angry person. It makes your children not share their daily school lives, show you their examination results. It widens the love and bonding distance between you, the parents, and the child.

So whenever you feel you cannot stand the angry environment in your company, think of your family members behind supporting you always. Family ties can withstand all hardship ultimately, when the feelings and burden you have deep in your heart, are shared between family members. You do have a choice to decide your own life. Decide for yourself.

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