by A. E. Rivera

Created on: May 21, 2008   Last Updated: May 22, 2008

She walks into the crowded club and throws her hair back. She laughs. "All eyes are on me," she thinks, as she gracefully moves through the crowd to a table in the center of the room. She has to be the center of attention. She has to be. That's how she gets her self-confidence. It's what defines her; what gives her a sense of purposeher looks.

He sees her move through the crowd. "She's beautiful," he thinks. He targets in on her and begins to think of ways to get close to her, to make sure he at least gets her digits before the evening comes to a close. The awaited opportunity finally presents itself. He's now face-to-face with her. Her eyes, her smile, her sexy attire, her curvaceous figure, her sense of stylea complete package, he thinks, as he engages her in conversation.

They dance. She laughs at his remarks about how beautiful she is, of how sexy she looks, of how he is the luckiest man in the club to be on the dancing floor with the best looking chick in the place. She's thinking, "He's so into me." She;s the center of attention. Her sense of self is inflated. She feels good about herself. Again, she hit the mark.

They don't go home together that night, but he has her digits and that's good enough for him, for now.

He calls her the following day and they set a date for dinner. She walks into the restaurant where they agreed to meet. She's even more beautiful in the brighter light. "Ah, the sense of style," he thinks. She's escorted to their table. He stands to greet her. All eyes are on her. She knows it. Self assured, she smiles and sits down.

Decent dinner. Okay conversation.

She sleeps with him that night, they date a few more times, and then he never returns.

"What happened," she thinks. "He was so in to me."

What happened is that men are visual creatures who can be very shallow at first sight. The majority of them are pulled in by a woman's physical appearance, but it's what's beneath the physical appearance that makes them want to stay.

Today's man is after the full package, meaning beauty and brains. They want women they can engage in deep conversation about various topics, not just about what kind of hub caps are on their cars, what kind of cars they drive, or which designer is in vogue. They want women who are well-rounded, who have goals and are working toward those goals, not just talking the talk. They want independent women who are willing to work hard and sacrifice for what they want, not women who will ride on their coat tails. Shallow is

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