by Stephan Jenson

Created on: May 21, 2008

Sometimes a think marriage should be like a book,the author needs to keep the interest of the reader in order for the reader to continue. Hence the importance of communication. Take for example the dating part, if you start by looking through the book to see what you don't like about it or what you would change, then don't bother reading the book. First the title it has captured your attention {physical} enough that you open the book to read the forward, you find that,it has captured your attention as well {conversation} you then decide whether or not you are going to purchase the book. Buyer beware you have read enough {dating} to know that you are not always going to like every part of the book,but there is enough story line {character} that captivates you and you need to finish the book.

The first time I set eyes on my wife she took my breathe away, and after thirty years of marriage she still does to this day.Hell I still get excited about getting home to her.Our children of grown and gone.The one think that we both agreed on from the start was it made us happy to be with each other, however it wasn't the responsibility of each other to make each other happy,we had to make ourselves happy.We also knew the importance of supporting each other in our goals what ever it was,as the worst thing that could happen in our failures was that we learned something.The importance of conversation and communication was always apparent, if you are going to share your life with someone you had better understand that things aren't always about you the individual, but about a life together. Another issue is trust some people have the miss conception that you have to trust the author, not so you have to trust yourself the reader in that you have made the right choice.

It's funny but as we get older our reading habits and material changes, I guess that comes with our experiences in life. Well marriage is the same we sometime forget as we get older our needs change, the need for love never does,however some seem to mistaken it for our partner losing interest in us not so, it is just another chapter in the book it is still the same author who captivated you in the beginning.It's important to remember that you are both individuals.The wonderful thing about marriage is that you think it's perfect at the beginning and then half way through you think it's not perfect but it's good,then you realize as you continue that if you had changed certain thing abouts the author it wouldn't have been the same book, and only this author would have written the perfect ending,as perfection is something that comes with time through life experiences.There is one thing to remember,there are times when you're busy and have things to do you put the book down,it is not because you don't enjoy the book you just have things to do, if you notice you always put it where you can find it, the wonderful thing about that is if you pay close enough attention it is exactly how you left, ready to be picked up and started were you left off.

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