by Lady Moonwater

Created on: May 19, 2008   Last Updated: April 29, 2011

Sisters are great to have, she can be your friend, confidant, "partner in crime" (figuratively speaking, of course), playmate and a blessing. But sisters can also be stubborn at times. Take my sister for example. I love her very, very much. She's beautiful, smart, but can be stubborn, naive, and doesn't always take advice well (and sometimes not at all), even if it's in her best interest. Now, I know what you're probably thinking, "This woman is insulting her sister on the internet!". Not necessarily so. I do have room to speak. I, myself, can be stubborn, naive, and don't always take advice when I should. It seems to be a bit of a family trait. But, I do try to learn from my mistakes, and try not to make them again.

I, too, have been in abusive relationships. Physically and mentally abusive (mostly mental). And through it all, my family was always there for me. But, I eventually woke up and realized that I was being abused.

It seems to be a cycle that started with my mom. Her first husband (my first step-dad) was abusive to my mother and me. That marriage only lasted four months. Then, she married her second husband, who was in the Army, and adopted me when I was three. For the most part, he was a great dad. But after a while, he became an alcoholic. There were times that he physically abused me (nothing major, just left a bruise sometimes when he would spank me with a belt), but most of the time it was mental abuse, which lasted from early childhood until I was a teenager. My mom finally decided to leave my adopted dad after I had moved in with my grandparents up north when I was 16.
So then, it was just my mom and sister. Eventually, my mom, sister and I all moved to our home state in the south and my parents divorced. My adopted dad has since quit drinking, become an active member at his church, is re-married to a wonderful woman, and we now have a healthy relationship.

Well, as I said earlier, I went through my share of abusive relationships. Now, unfortunately, my sister has found herself in one. As I'm writing this, she is staying at our mom's house.

It's a tough situation for her, and I won't go through all the details of her present life. But she's separated from her husband (who was just released from incarceration last December- on a non-domestic abuse-related matter), and has been in a relationship with another guy (who doesn't deserve for me to use the title of "man") who has been abusing my sister (only mentally as far as I know) for a while now.

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