by Kathleen Richardson

Created on: May 18, 2008   Last Updated: November 29, 2008

Decide to be indecisive

One way of making a decision is to not make a decision at all. Behind this reasoning is the justification that you are putting lots of time and thought into the matter, considering pros and cons, day after day, week after week, and even year after year.

If you put a decision off long enough, it may eventually be taken out of your hands. You may feel an uneasy sense of relief at having the responsibility removed. Or you may be stunned by the ultimate outcome: surely all the time you spent considering the matter should have made a difference; all's well that ends well. But, then, all does not always end well.

Consider the lengthy, in-depth cogitation you devote to your employment. It may be that you love where you work but are not sure this is the career field for you. Your supervisor is likeable yet unmotivated and may be holding you back from greater success. You get along with all your co-workers except for that one particular person who is driving everyone crazy. You do not mind the long drive, but you hate spending the money on gasoline. Anyway, you stay in this job, doing occasional online job searches.

Then, layoffs begin and you have kind of gotten your wish. You are out of the career field at least for the time being. No more uninspiring supervisor. No more unpleasant co-worker. No more long drive. No more paycheck.

This type of decision-maker will never lack for material for cogitation.

Backpedaling

Congratulations, you are able to make decisions after brief, careful review. Several days or weeks later, however, the matter is still on your mind and you decide to take another look. New facts, new directions of thought, affect your original determination and it no longer appears sensible. Maybe that first choice was not the best one and it is not too late to change your mind.

An example that comes to mind is health. A month after a bout with the flu, you're still not feeling like your old self. As a matter of fact, you have cut your former 2-mile daily walks to one mile and even that little bit is tiring. Occasionally you feel a tightening around your chest. It only last a minute or two. You probably should have taken more time to recover from the flu. It cannot be your heart. You are too young and you take such good care of yourself.

Finally you decide to schedule a physical checkup. The appointment is in two weeks. A week after you call the doctor's office, you are feeling pretty darn good and even walking two miles daily again. You cancel

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