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My ex-husband and I married about for years ago. We just recently separated. We married when I was 20 and 6 months pregnant, he was 22. Our life started out good. We got our own place and we both worked. But after the baby was born we started doing drugs. Fighting became an everyday event. Obviously, it turned violent, and our new son was sitting in the first row of every knock down drag out we got into to. When I left him, I was two months pregnant. I filed divorce got a restraining order immediately. Life after I left was hell, he stalked me everywhere I went. He scared all my friends away. He got a mutual friend to confront me at a carnival. He even got a psycho girl friend that shot bee bees into my apartment. During all this stalking and harassing, my son started having night terrors. He would wake up screaming and shaking. I couldn't console him. He would be screaming and kicking with all his might. On top of losing sleep every night, I had major anxiety. I did the most logical thing I could think of, put both of us into therapy. I learned that we both had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). My therapist showed me relaxation techniques for myself and places to massage my 1 1/2 year old when he was freaking out. I was better and healthier than ever. I was happy again. I started going to college to get my CNA. One day he caught up with me at Walmart. He began talking to our 1 1/2 year old son. I was nervous and upset, but stood idly by as they communicated. Deep down I knew that it was wrong to keep them apart. I also knew that as his mother, it is my job to keep him safe. My ex never hurt our son but from my experiences I knew that he had a short temper. This terrified me. Before our first court appearance for our divorce, we agreed, via our attorneys, that my ex could have visitation with our son briefly, once a week, with the therapist. Well, my therapist got called off to go to war and we were sent to another therapist in the same building. The first visit was horrible. The idea was for the therapist to focus on my ex and our son. He was to monitor my son's signs and responses to his fathers presence. Unfortunately, the therapist focused in on our relationship as parents. I understand the importance of communication between parents weather they are together or not, but I was not ready to focus on our relationship. I felt as though they both were ganging up on me. I refused any more therapeutic visits after that. One day my

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