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when they were young is not necessarily how they are handled now. It's becoming more common for people to judge and make comments about things that they know nothing about. They feel it's their earned right to say whatever they want. And this goes especially for older people.

This is a very poor and irresponsible attitude and has no place in any society. Therefore, when you encounter these types of people you need to be prepared to either excerpt anything positive or helpful from what they have said, or you need to ignore it.

You can ignore their comments if you have taught your children inner security so that you can say to your children, "Ignore her, we know the truth and she just likes to be heard". If your children have a close bond with you, they will continue to feel confident in who they are, and they will be able to ignore the unkind words, as well.

But sometimes, the unkind comments need to be dealt with especially when you believe that they were spoken totally out of line. Then, as a supportive parent, you need to show your children that you will not tolerate such unwarranted criticism from a stranger. Just remember to use tact and discretion, and not anger or sarcasm.

An example, "You don't know me or my children and you have no right giving your unwanted opinion about something you don't know anything about. You should direct your rude comments to yourself because that's where they belong."

Just remember, people speak openly for different reason: some because they can't control situations in their own lives; some because they are programmed to accept only their own generation as intelligent; and some because they are so self-righteous that they have no compassion or respect for anyone else.

But your focus at all times should be on your children who look up to you for acceptance. As long as they know that you believe that they are special and that you will always love them, they will be able to overcome such attacks.

And as long as you continue to love your children and accept them for who they are, you will always rise up above the unkind words spoken by strangers.

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