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I think that whether or not you have your teen's password for their Myspace depends on your child. Is your child's behavior changing or becoming worrisome? There are so many ways to monitor your home computer that demanding complete access to every detail of your teen's life without any provocation seems intrusive.

They have to start having an identity separate from you. Asking for more of their world when you have a teen over 16 with no behavioral indicators snooping on Myspace is sort of like reading a diary. Demanding this can only make them more secretive and resentful.

By following basic rules; such as, having your family computer in a family area(there is NO reason that a child under 16 needs a computer in his/her room). Installing protection software which alerts you on your computer, at your designated e-mail address if inappropriate language is used by anyone using the computer in question. You can use words and phrases that come with the software and add your own key words.(like names of people you have a problem with)

The other point is Myspace is for older kids and adults and if your child has a Myspace they have lied about their age. Their are group sites that are much more appropriate for children younger than 14. You certainly have the right to approve ANY pictures that are posted and to look at the site with your child at any time with no warning. This should be a family rule. You do not need a password to do this.

Teens in America today seem to have no sense of consequence. They watch when people do things wrong and nothing happens to them. It is your job to tell them with your actions that negative behavior has negative consequences. Your children must know that you expect them to respect you and to respect themselves. This includes written words on-line as well as any pictures they post of themselves or others. Cyber bullying has become a HUGE thing on Myspace; the worst thing you can do is think your child would not participate. Groupthink is a highly motivating force.

Knowing where you stand on issues is the most important gift you can give your children. Parents are still the biggest influence on behavior. Tell your children what you expect. Live the words you say to them. Respect yourself. Your children will know they must behave this way whether you are with them and you are not. If your child is 16 or 17 and is still acting out by posting inappropriate things or allowing contacts from people that they do not know you

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