by Amanda Blake

Created on: May 14, 2008

The question is, has love finally left the building? When men who you know to be married with children proposition you with offers of sex or "fun" as they put it, and everyone else seems to be cheating or involved in casual relationships, you have to wonder if the concept of love has given up the ghost. While it may seem moral of you to stand up for your beliefs if you dislike the idea of casual relationships, it can become difficult after some time alone. When you become particularly lonely, and someone is offering a chance to have some kind of physical relationship, is it wrong if you start to wonder about taking up that opportunity?

For quite a while, the concept of being alone has not really been a problem. With other distractions around, the idea of a relationship has fallen somewhat by the wayside. However now I have started to wonder if there are solutions other than a conventional long term relationship. So long as you are careful, is there a problem with seeing people casually or being involved with more than one person at once? If everyone knows what the situation is, without the idea that it could develop into more, then maybe it's alright. On the other hand, will you each be able to keep your emotions under control? Eventually physical feelings may develop into emotional attachment and at the point the involvement surely has to either finish completely or become a proper relationship. If that's what you both want then things should be fine, but probably not if one person feels differently.

It's not wrong to want to feel loved or attractive, particularly if it has been a while since your last relationship. Everyone is human, and it can be easy to feel isolated when it seems that everyone else you see appears to be part of a couple. If there is a chance to release some built up frustration, particularly if the feeling is mutual, is it wrong to do so? You're both in the same predicament, each needing some kind of a resolution, so why not go for it. Maybe I should do this, and perhaps I should resist. Keep on waiting patiently for someone to arrive that is a possible great relationship, the emotional side as well as the physical. Or maybe I need to be that little bit selfish here. Get rid of all that frustration and built up tension and do something that's just for me, without having to worry about the feelings of another person. Maybe it's selfish, and I don't really like that these feelings have surface. But we all have needs and maybe its time I stopped ignoring mine.

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