by j.d. stegall

Created on: May 14, 2008   Last Updated: October 21, 2009

The television show Super-nanny puts a spotlight on a major dilemma that we have in America children don't respect their parents. We're supposed to be raising the next generation, bright and hopeful, ready to change the world. Unfortunately we are raising up an army of "hellions" devious, arrogant children who crush their parents and all who try and stop them. A simple "no" can cause a crying, snot dribbling, temper tantrum that can last for hours. So, you ask, how can you get your children to respect you and keep them off the Super-nanny television show? Here are three tried and true methods.

I believe there are three ways. First, back up your words with actions. Empty threats do nothing more than undermine an already diminished authority in the home. Second, parents should prevent from provoking their children to wrath. In addition, most important of all, show them a genuine dose of love.

Back Up Your Words With Actions

When children are told to do something, "or else", the first thing they think is: "or else what?" When they're told to sit in the corner for x amount of minutes, or told that their privileges will be taken away for a certain time, or that they will get spanked for bad behavior, they expect it to happen. When they find out "or else" only meant you're only going to say it 20 more times before dinner that night, they know you're a fraud with no authority.

Your kid is now thinking, "I'm gonna play mom and dad like Barnim and Bailey clowns"you give an inch, they take over the house. So don't let your children take you hostage in your own home or in public with another tirade. Back up your words with actions. Sometimes this can even mean spanking; let the crime fit the punishment.

Even though it may hurt you more than it hurts them, it's important to be consistent with discipline because when you do they will respect your voice, realizing you do have substance and authority in those words. This creates a pattern of consistency and structure, which every home needs to be successful.

Avoid Provoking Your Children To Wrath

What does it mean to provoke your children to wrath? I'm talking about raising your children to live one way while you yourself live a lifestyle contrary to your own teachings and morals. When they get old enough to learn their ABC's and 1-2-3's they're going to see right through your words all the way to your hypocritical lifestyle. Most parents' actions are so loud their kids can't hear a word they're saying.

Make it a point to

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