by Juniper Shea

Created on: May 13, 2008

When it comes down to dating what really is an unrealistic expectation? Does it really matter if you have expectations with you partner/spouse or your relationship overall? In many relationships we have this constant questions that we think about. When have we crossed the line and have begun to expect too much?

In any sort of relationship we may find ourselves in, it's important to know what you have. Know, don't think, your partner/spouse is who they are. There really is no need to have high expectations when it comes to changing their personality or thoughts. High expectations as to who your partner is, is a different situation.

When we begin to open ourselves up for a relationship, it's good to have high expectations as to what type of person who you would be attracted to. Having high expectations in searching for a partner/spouse can save you a lot of time although when you become to expect too much from some one they could begin to feel nothing they could ever do would make you happy.

This is the biggest problem in many relationships, having too high expectations all the time. Having high expectations for your partner/spouse doesn't make you a bad person although it's good to let your partner/spouse know that most of the time they are doing something right.

Enforcing positive feedback about their actions can prevent arguments and frustration between the two of you. It's when we forget the ability to compliment and accept that we begin to fight. When we are constantly sharing what are expectations are for them, it could get over bearing for them to hear all the time. Sharing your expectations in moderation is a much better approach at communicating your expectations.

Basically an unrealistic expectations is something that either can not be changed or is dramatic. An example of an expectation that they probably can't help is their personality. If you are unsatisfied with their personality and find you can not over look this, parting ways may be the best thing to do at this point.

If it's a over dramatized expectation you have for you partner/spouse, such as: expecting them to clean all the time, expecting them to complete all the shopping or expecting them to always maintain an appearance; there are many ways of changing your communicating approach. When I mention changing your communicating approach, I am talking about the way you talk with them about your expectations. Using good communication skills and always talking in an non-attacking method can guide you both to the end of the tunnel.

Having unrealistic expectations can eventually spoil any solid relationship. It's with in your relationship that you and only you can determine what is alright to speak about and when you have crossed that line. The biggest change that can help any issue in a relationship, aside verbal and physical relationships, is communicating. Remember, communication can rule the world, it's with that knowledge that you can improve any dilemma.

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