by Juniper Shea

Created on: May 13, 2008

Love can sometimes feel like a burden although is it really a burden? What makes being in love a burden? I'm sure it's different for every one, depending on the different relationships you may find yourself in although what are some typical things that may make you feel burdened? Should love ever be considered a burden?

What I hear from most that burdens them in their relationships is money. Being in a relationship, everything gets doubled. This means food, toiletry items and especially bills. At first we tend to be blinded by the love we don't notice our bills climbing up and up. In the very beginning we love that person so much we would be willing to spend an extra fifty or so dollars at the grocery store to prepare a wonderful dinner. These things fade and in comes your true feelings, you begin to feel burden. Don't worry this is normal.

Another huge feedback I get from others that makes them feel burdened is their time. Especially when you begin to live with your partner/spouse your time begins to mostly go to them. At first this is wonderful and everything is extremely peachy although after a while we begin to feel burden. The weight of never getting any time to yourself begins to weigh on your shoulders and in many cases makes you want to get away.

Then when it comes to keeping your home tidy, one may be messier then the other and this too begins to burden you. The daily tasks of picking up items around your home that you hadn't touched or possibly don't know what the object is. After a while you begin to feel like their parent and this begins to burden you as well.

The good news is, every relationships goes through these fazes. One minute you feel like being close with them and then the next you want to scream and run away. All of these feelings are very normal and in other words doesn't make you a terrible person for feeling these things although we can't help but wonder should love ever be considered a burden.

When you are in love there are obligations that get put upon you that really is never spoke of. One minute your single worrying about your obligations and then the next thing you know your in a relationship two years go by and the two of you are moving in together. Then one morning you wake up and realize you have cleaned their mess for months now and haven't said a word. Basically where I am getting at is all relationships form bonds.

Forming a bond with your partner/spouse can be great though with this bond comes obligations. One does mostly dishes why the other always vacuums. All relationships have this unspoken trust or bond between the two of you and some times these are the things that can make a relationship, loving a person become a burden.

The only logical way to over come this feeling of being burden is to compromise. Every one needs a break from something every now and again. Asking for a break doesn't make you lazy, insensitive or crazy; this just means you need a break. Communicating that you may have gotten to far over your head is not bad, especially when the feeling of being burden is making you feel like breaking up is the solution.

The reality is no relationship is perfect, every one has their bad days. Sometimes love can be considered a burden, though it's with these sacrifices that we can truly have love in our life and possess a healthy relationship. It's with communicating honestly with our partners/spouses that we can avoid feeling burden from time to time.

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