by Krystle Hernandez

Created on: May 11, 2008

Everyone wants to imagine that their relationship will be the epitome of fairy-tale relationships: meet, fall in love, stay together through thick and thin, and ultimately live happily ever after. Unfortunately, this idea is a "tale" for a reason. The truth is, relationships take a lot of hard work and commitment from both individuals in order to make it through the tough times.

More often than not, relationships will break up for any number of reasons. Of course, in every relationship, one or both partners will sense that their relationship is over long before the "break up" actually occurs. So, if you've been thinking about ending your relationship and moving on, but aren't quite sure of the steps you need to take, consider the following tips to help you make this inevitably difficult process much smoother.

First and foremost, take time apart. Some space is often beneficial in helping you make the difficult decision to end your relationship. Ending relationships in the heat of the moment (i.e. during an argument) could have irreparable repercussions. After some time has passed, you may regret your decision. If this is the case, mending your relationship could take a considerable amount of work. Also, you face the risk of losing your partner for good, should they decide to move on after your break up. Taking time apart will help you clear your head and weigh your options clearly. Sometimes, it is difficult to see the truth problem in your relationship when you are so immersed in it. Taking a step back can help you re-evaluate the dynamic of your relationship. If the "problem" is fixable, it may be worth the effort to mend your relationship. If the problem is a deal-breaker, then you'll know what you have to do. In any case, taking this time to think about what you really want will save you and your partner a great deal of heartache.

While taking time apart, weigh your options. Take a couple of days to live life completely for yourself. Try to rediscover the person you were before you met your significant other. It can be very easy for people to fall into a comfortable routine that is determined by their partner's actions. Forget your partner and focus on yourself. Do the things that he/she would have never agreed to do with you. Pamper yourself. In any case, this time alone will not only help you reconnect with your true self, it will also remind you what life is like without your partner. In some cases, you may decide that life is simply better without them.

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